I have no relationship with my mother, any advice?

Ever since I was around 11 my relationship with my mother started going downhill and then when I turned 16 my parents got a divorce. Since the divorce though she has not called me except on holidays and then when she does call she expects an immediate relationship. I try to explain to her that she has not been in my life for the most important years and that I can鈥檛 just pretend like we have a relationship because its not there. She literally lives less than 10 miles from me and I haven鈥檛 seen her since mother鈥檚 day. For a while I tried to call her but she never called me back so now I simply don鈥檛 even try. I admit when we do talk I do not show the greatest respect or tell her shes a great mom or even that I love her because she does not deserve it. Through all this I WANT to have a relationship with her but I don鈥檛 know where to begin or to make her understand how horrible she鈥檚 been. I know this is a lot, but does anyone have any ideas? (I鈥檓 18)


ThanksI have no relationship with my mother, any advice?
I think you are banging your head on the wall. She was not a proper mother and never will be, she won't even accept that she has done wrong. It's hard but you should probably try to accept that you essentially have no mother. This is what I have had to do also. It gets easier over time as you mature and find that you don't need one anyway.I have no relationship with my mother, any advice?
matter what has happen between you and your mother,please do remmber she is your mother,they are not perfect and do make mistake but that does'nt mean she don't love you,try to talk to her and let her know how you feel and where you're coming from,you know to be honest she could feel the same way you do that why it's good to go to her and open up and let her know how you feel,cause that women gave birth to you and you will neverknow how important she is to you,if you lose her.
Now you are in 18. Good. You are capable of understanding the things in life.


Please allow her to live happily. Because no one wantedly doing divorce . she may have some bitter experience in life.


Whatever may be she is your mother only. We can not change mother. We can change partners / friends...





Okay . Try to understand her position, she may have some commitments with her present life. If at all she is not coming to you, the circumstances May be like that. So do your duty. Get in touch with her in a possible mode that to in way not affecting her.


And till her death please be a good daughter to your mother (she may or may not be good mother). Do your part good. and you will get everything good in your life and you will get a good future and relationship / friendship. Best of luck..