In a relationship i thought was a happy one and i need advice?

i am in a relationship i thought it was all good and things were going smooth. my bf has been having problems jacking off in his sleep and i have been looking for answers on that trying to help him because he has no recollection of doing so. while in the process of trying to help him i wake the other night to him in the bathroom jerking off and he was completely awake. he comes out lays down knows i am awake gets the deer in headlights look and hurry quick go back to sleep before i can say anything to him. we have a very very good well i thought sex life consisting of sex almost every day. pretty much daily sometimes more then once a day. and i hadn't had sex with him that night or the day before that was the first time in a long time that we hadn't had sex. so he tells me that it is my fault and that i am the one who made him do it and that i cant be upset by it. i am truly hurt and feel betrayed by this and he says it was the first time he has ever done it since we been together. i blame myself because we have been watching some porn lately and i am 5 months pregnant so am i the one who did it and is he not attracted to me that is why he did it or what??? i don't really understand any of it and i am crushed and need help what do i do?????? In a relationship i thought was a happy one and i need advice?
Let the poor guy masturbate if he needs to.... it's natural.In a relationship i thought was a happy one and i need advice?
Honey, there is NOTHING wrong with what he is doing. It's a natural thing. I am sure most men do that from time to time, I would not be upset about it if I were you. He is simply pleasuring himself and thats not a bad thing.
You should not blame yourself for any of his actions.





The excessive sex drive he is manifesting is a marker for sexual addiction. That is his problem, not yours. No normal male needs sex multiple times a day, if he is in the situation you described. I don't believe he could do what he is doing, unaware, in his sleep either.





You need to care for yourself and for the child growing inside of you. Don't take on any more burdens in life than you can handle. I get the impression both of you are very young. The next four months are going to be very trying for you, physically and mentally. So you must be strong for yourself, not him.





He's a big boy now, soon to be a father. You might remind him of that from time to time, and don't let him lay a guilt trip on the only person in the world who loves him, despite his numerous faults. If he needs sex, and you are willing, he has a mouth, let him ask. Let him know he needs to ask. Does he expect you to initiate everything?





Time to show a little independence in this relationship. Don't let him use you for his personal entertainment center. You are a human being and deserve respect.
Guys do this don't take it personally! You are probably just emotional because you are pregnant . I look at it this way it is better than him cheating on you! Just ease up on the guy! I know it is hard to not take it personally, but it is much easier when you don't.
I think you should open the lines of communication. Tell him that you would appreciate it if he asked you for sex before he pleasured himself. If you do have sex one day and he needs to jack off the next because you don't want to have sex then that should be fine. I can totally understand how you feel insecure now because you are five months pregnant, but if you talk to him about how you feel it will make you feel better, He may just not want to bother you while you are sleeping. I personally loved to be woken up to sex. Just try talking to him, tell him how you feel, and let him know your expectations.
You are not responsible for his actions. The fact that he is trying to blame you for something he chose to do is ridiculous.
Sweetie, don't worry so much. Your man is still attracted to you, he just seems to need that release a little more often than you do just now. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, and even those in the healthiest of relationships do it every now and again. Some men even do it every day, even if they are having sex with their wife just as often.





If it gets to the point he starts putting you off and denying you sex so he can masturbate instead, that is the time to worry. Otherwise your partner is engaging in perfectly normal behavior, and you should accept it as such. Making a big deal over it and getting offended may make him feel nervous about his sexuality and that could effect his ability to maintain an erection when he's with you.
So you thought your relationship was a good one and because you caught your boyfriend masturbating, it's now over? Is this your first relationship with a man or what? Masturbation is a normal part of a sexual relationship, particularly in younger adults. It's not like he said he is unhappy with you or something. He's not with another woman. This is a normal occurrence. Relax and don't be so uptight.
Which one is better, him jerking himself or jerking another woman? Don't think so much about it, man sometimes even when they are in relationship does that in order to release their libido without their partner's obligation. You are pregnant!!!!