I need advice on talking with my friend about her relationship.?

My friend is 14 and she is going out with a 12 yr old.when she did ';something'; with him she felt bad





she thinks that she is corupting him. she has done stuff with older guys but sense he is young she feels that she should of waited. I dont know really what to say to her or how to talk about it with her. i dont know if i should tell her its alright. or she should wait a little while. thanks for your help!!I need advice on talking with my friend about her relationship.?
First, here is the pure biological, scientific fact:





Emotionally boys are immature up until around age 19-24, depending how fast there hormones develop them.





Girls are more emotionally mature than boys but not necessarily mature for their age. Female hormones develop faster than boys.





At the age of 14, I think your friend is confusing ';love'; and ';fooling around'; as a way for boys to like her. This may work for now, but as she gets older, boys begin disrespecting her because in the end, boys want to be able to bring home ';good girls'; for their parents to meet. I am referring to high school and college. So she will always have boys willing to sleep with her but she may not have boys willing to show her off to their family.





Also, if you do not respect your body, why should you expect anybody else to respect you? She feels this way because as you said, she is feeling guilty. That is a good sign as she knows she has a line she should not cross. She needs to keep that thinking.





I would tell her, ';since you are feeling guilty, then you probably should stop and wait until you know it will be more serious, which means you really like each other after dating for 6 months or more. If he doesn't like it, then you have your answer, he was only after you for fooling around and he ain't worth it.';





Now as an adult point of view, I think she should just be enjoying life and not be doing any ';somethings'; at all and wait until she is much older to handle such adult emotions, which allows her to know when to share herself and when she should not with the right guy who likes her for her personality and mind and not just her body and sex.





If she insists on doing ';something';, she needs to protect herself against Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) that can tear up your female parts for life, getting pregnant which can change your life for the rest of your life (plus the dad is forever a part of yours and the baby's life whehter you like it or not), and the emotional loss when relationships don't work out because you then feel used. AIDS will kill you slowly and painfully. so it is always best to know your partner and their sexual health history before sleeping together





I am not here to judge even though the age startles me but hopefully the scenario answer helps you with your concern





Did you know? As a female, you will have a 90% chance of getting a male to agree to sleep with you, but as a male, he may have only a 40%-60% chance of getting a female to agree.





So as a female, she holds a huge sexual power. Use it wisely and don't abuse it to the point no man respects her.I need advice on talking with my friend about her relationship.?
You need to talk to her ASAP. Make sure you dont lecture her, but just make her aware of how you feel and how what shes doing isnt right. Sit her down and talk, just dont make it feel like you're there do be another parent to her. Its better to do it now than later.
I think it is a little strange for a 14 yr old to be dating a 12 year old. When I was 14 first off I was not dating, second off I was interested in boys a little older than me, never younger. It seems strange. And she is wayyyy to young to be 'doing stuff' with any boys.
Tell her that if what she is doing or did is bothering her than stay away from it. and kids that are that young do tend to want to see what its like thats why its up to the parents to lecture them on why its important to wait to until they are Mature to do things that are sexually seductive because although the kids think its ok to do these kind of things its very un-pure to get into things like that especially if you are young and aren't ready for the consequences that could possibly come their way.
What the @#$%. She needs to leave him alone!
I think, seeing as she is only 14, you should tell her to wait a while anyway.





And please tell me what on earth a 14yr old girl sees in a 12yr old boy? Let him be a boy!
There is such a thing called statutory rape, so I would be very careful and not give into emotions
Ok. Not sure what ';something'; means, but if it felt bad, then it probably was. Here's a bit of advice. If she's not 18, and did something that ';felt bad';, the most likely it was. Just tell her what she did was ILLEGAL and if anyone other than you finds out about it, trouble may come her way. It doesn't matter if both parties were younger than 18, it's still ILLEGAL. Just tell her you're worried about her and if that doesn't work, then she probably shouldn't be your friend.
it's okay to give her your opinion, if thats what shes asking for.


if shes asking you to support her then sometimes its best to just show some support.





honestly i think its this boy's decision if he wants to do stuff with her or not. also if she feels funny or bad about it, then maybe its not a good thing.





she should also be able to talk to him about it.
personally, i think 12 is way to young and i dont know why she's interested in him, but 12 year olds do stuff with other 12 year olds, so she should just go by how ready HE feels. if he feels that he's ready, she shouldnt feel bad.
Explain to her that it is illegal and yes, she is corrupting him.. Tell her to stop being a ho.
OMG Way to young....Way too young....she needs to settle down...WOW
don't tell her its alright because she shouldn't be having sex in the first place, but im sure she will end up doing what she wants to do. I suggest that you reveal to her the pros and the cons of the situation she is currently in and let her figure out what she wants to do. I don't think you should stress out about this situation because this is not you snake to wrestle.
talk to her my friend did it too
No 12 year old should be doing anything sexual in my opinion.





That's ridiculous. He's just a child for god's sake.
Why would she have to resort to dating someone 2 years younger? If she feels like she is corrupting him, then she probably is. She needs to slow down regardless of his being 12, because she is only 14 herself. I sense that your friend may be devoloping a reputation and it might not be one she can tell her mom about with pride.
tell her that you just want to help her, and offer her some advice.


omg 12??


tell her to at least get someone her own age.


of course she is corrupting him, i bet his balls haven't even dropped.
shes 14 and hes 12? tell them to concentrate on school and make the grades so they get into a good college. They can do ';stuff'; together in the future, there are plenty of years to get pregnant later in life.
First, if she feels bad then why is she dating the kid? I dont think being in a relationship with someone you look down to would work. I'd tell her that if she feels bad then she shouldn't do anything.
I'm still trying to get over the 14 yr. old and 12 yr. old. Dear God........I CAN'T EVEN BELIEVE THIS IS A QUESTION, AN OPTION. You kids need to get a grip before the grip gets you..............
first of all, your friend being 14 is too young herself to be doing ';things'; with multiple people already. this is a hard question to answer because i can't imagine being with a 12 year old! but no, i don't think it's ok. she's too young herself and HE is definitely way too young.
at 14 she should be enjoying being a girl instead of being a predator.





Tell her to enjoy being a kid and to leave the adult stuff alone for now.
that's really young to be doing a whole lot of anything... she needs to wait. he's too young, not to mention inexperienced. just because she's done it with (key word here: older) guys doesn't make it okay to do with a 12 year old.