Advice about a first time relationship?

I'm a freshman in college, never had a boyfriend, never had sex or anything. There's a guy that really likes me here and we hooked up once but I really can't decide if I want to be in a relationship with him and I don't know what to do! It's like one day I'm really into him and the next day I'm telling myself I don't want to get into a relationship. I'm just not sure what I want right now and I don't know why I feel this way...can anyone help me sort this out? please any help would be great and please don't say something stupid like ';just **** him'; or somethingAdvice about a first time relationship?
The very foundation of any good relationship is trust. Can you trust this guy enough to tell him what you just asked us here on Yahoo Answers?





You want to be with him but you don't want things to get out of control. Everything you said makes sense. You're 18 or 19 and it's time to start your adult life. There are no real guidelines other than the ones you make for yourself; and some conflicts -like wanting a boy friend but not getting too deep over your head have no definite answers.





Take some time to think it through. Have it clear in your mind what you want and what is unacceptable. Most of all be confident enough to walk away if things don't turn out the way you want them. Advice about a first time relationship?
The best thing to do is:





1) Ask yourself yo either like this guy as a friend or more then a friend.


2) If you really like him then:


a. Take your time %26amp; get to know him first before you go any further becoming lovers).


3) If you just like him as a friend:


a. then don't need to worry about becomming lovers.





Well, GOOD LUCK. It's up to you to decide.



okay i'm in the same boat i've never had sex before or anything either! if he really likes you, and you've hooked up before just make sure you're really ready to start dating him! if your really into him then you'll have to make the choice weather or not to start dating eachother take it slow at first get to know eachother better! go out on a date one night and see what happends from there! if you still dig him then make the choice to hook up again!
I used to be like that from the time i was 14 till i was 18. I always had mixed feelings and i would always want a boyfriends, once i had one i would breakup with him or something because i wasn't sure. I would just keep trying to get to know him. dont just **** him. that is something really special and you should keep it for that special someone!
You need to slow down and have fun, you are just a newby in College. Do not give yourself to anyone wait until marriage that is the best thing you could do for yourself. Relationship's are messy and crazy, why not date and have fun and relax. Do not let the messiness of relationships keep you from enjoying College. When you get to be a Junior or Senior then look for a serious partner.
Hey, it sounds like you have some things to work out in your own head for yourself and not for some guy. If you're not sure about him, then stay away! He needs to strike your attention and keep it! If he doesn't, then don't waste your time! Figure out when you want for yourself and don't settle for anything less. Good luck to you girl!
Do NOT have sex with him unless you are sure that you want to do so. You hardly know this guy and you are overwhelmed.





Why not tell the guy how confused you are and that you would like to take it very slow for a while until you can figure out what you want for yourself?
dont act nervous around him...i no this! lol. he might think that u dont like him as much anymore if you are. stay in the relationship...wait about say a week until u decide that u dont wanna be with him anymore. cuz u really dont know how he acts as a bf until then. also dont be afraid to like tell him wat u dont wanna do with him. u dont wanna feel pressured. but...i say stay with him for a little while longer...hope i helped you! =) byez!!!
if you are so conflicted then dont bother with him, just explain to him that you arent interested in a relationship right now. it would probably be best to avoid hooking up with him in the future just so your not giving him mixed signals.
Hang out together, just the two of you- the you'll know how to feel about the situation. If something does develop take things slowly and don't rush into things. Make sure your ready for whatever you need





;) Good Luck xx
You should give him a chance.
take things slow...day by day
definitely take it slow


don't lose your v-card to someone who's not special
yeah take things slow...dont hurry because ur too young..doesnt matter but you can earn experience...u can give him a chance...try to know him more, and his feelings
Firstly do you like him? secondly It's natural to be nervous about being in relationship, having reservations, but you go for it. Aslong as the guy's nice and kind he'll respect you. Just because your in a relationship doesn't mean you have to have sex. It's better to wait til your both ready. Even now i made my boyfriend wait 2 months even tho i'd had a few previous relationships. I'd rather know he'd wait for me, it' makes it a bit more special and by that time I was really falling for him. I've now been with a year %26amp; a bit and I love everything about him. But if he likes you he'll wait for wait for you! Trust me everyone feels like that before getting into a relationship. You only live once and sometimes you have to take the chance.
It's normal to feel this way..and since you've just now started to notice the opposite sex it seems..it's probably going to be a little bit stronger than usual. You probably feel excited at the thought of something new..and probably didn't realize what you were missing out on when you chose to ignore guys to begin with..or whatever the case. The important thing to remember at any age..with any relationship..is to not lose yourself and let go of the things you believe in..and your dreams. You are trying to be smart about this, but at the same time nature is taking its course and making it hard to ignore the fact that you are strongly attracted to this guy!! Life is really short..and you should allow some room for mistakes. Take things slow..don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. Make sure that you don't start giving up you. Lay down some guidelines with you, with him..that should ease your mind. If you have certain times that you want to study..make sure you let him know that those times are yours and yours alone..and he is to go find something to do. Going out for a latte or ice cream with the guy isn't going to hurt matters. It feels good to be social and to receive attention from a member of the opposite sex!! As for a relationship..make it known that you want to spend time with him to see if a relationship is even possible. Right now you have a plan in your mind and you'd like to stick with it. Life is unpredictable...but you want to make sure it's somewhat stable before rushing into anything with man.
Well firstly I think you need to ask yourself how bad it'd be if you tried it out and it didn't work. I mean are you going to have to see him every day or was it a sort of friend of a friend meeting? If I were you I'd go for it and give him a chance because the likelihood is that you'll find that any doubts you had are ironed out once you really get to know him. If after a couple of dates you're not 100% sure then end it rather than dragging it out over a long time and having an even messier break up! First relationships are always tricky but being easy-going about it is the best way forward. Just don't let him pressure you into anything you don't feel comfortable with. I hope this helps x