Heres my situation.... I was in credit debt for the past couple of years but it wasnt to the point it was hurting my credit (i was paying ontime) The past 5 months, my credit was almost ruined because I lost my job in Sept and could not make my payments.. From Oct til now, I have gotten in over my head with debt and my credit dropped from 700's to 500's with late payments hurting my score. My problem is wether to leave my girlfriend or not. We have been together for the last 5 years, and I have been a decent boyfriend but not exactly something to fight over. I feel that it would be wrong for me to put her through a situation where my credit was bad and could hurt future plans (house, etc) Would it be wrong for me not to tell her about my situation and let her get involved? I feel that it would only be fair to her and to give her the chance to be with someone who could do these things for her. Any suggestionsRelationship question that I need some help with. I do not have many girls to ask such advice to?
that sounds like a stupid reason to leave someone. there is a simple solution, pay your bills. it would only hurt her score if you got married and in that case the two of you would have a combined score. the only real reason to tell her would be if you were that serious and planning on buying a house or car together soon. a 500 credit score isnt really that bad its just not good. credit has a way of turning around quickly when you start paying things off.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Seriouse relationship problems... please give me your best advice..?
Im engaged to a guy for 6months now... he is abusive and VERY jeolous... yesterday he got mad at me for wearing a spagetti shirt when my sister and her husband were at my house. and i finally i got the nerve to tell him that im sick of him controlling me and telling me i cant go to the mall, i cant say hi to my cusins and etc... he told me he wanted to talk to me so we got in the car and drove away he started yelling at me and grabbing me... i started crying and he didnt even care.. then at night he send me a text that he still wanted to be with me.. what should i do? should i call him? tell him he need to change, and ill be with him.. i really need help, im afraid to tell my family that he does this to me. please help me, give me some good advice..(i dont want to leave him) but how do i make him change... thank you in advance!Seriouse relationship problems... please give me your best advice..?
I understand that you love him but do you love yourself because if you loved yourself you would not allow someone to hurt you over and over again.
Your family has been a part of your life since you were born they want to protect you and enjoy you for you they do not want you to have a future of being hurt.
Maybe you are confused on your love for this man.Maybe you have put him on a pedestal and what you see is only the good and no bad in this man.
You need to ask yourself a question of what you really want in life not who.
No matter what you do you cannot change someone and in most cases the person cannot change themselves without extensive work and sacrifice.
I'm sorry to tell you this but you need to find yourself before entering into a serious relationship
I will keep you in my prayersSeriouse relationship problems... please give me your best advice..?
Call the police. Seriously.
Don't ever ever torture yourself and stay in an abusive relationship. He's never going to change his ways, even if he says he will. And if he does, it will only be temporary. You've known him for a long time, and you've seen how he can be. Is this something you want for the rest of your life?
You can't make him change. You can change yourself, and change what you will and will not tolerate! Do you deserve to be abused? I didn't think so.
If you can't find the strength to tell him how you feel and you're afraid of him, then I would suggest you tell someone that is going to help you get out of that situation before the abuse becomes severe! Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life in fear? He's got some underline issues that he needs to get resolved.
Stop letting him abuse you! You weren't created to be abused! You were created to Praise God and to be loved and nourished, and taken care of. Find your strength and use it to get him some help or get away from the abuse!
No offense
dump his sorry ***
good thing you're not married yet
THere's a difference between him bring controlling and insecure and him being down right abusive
there'll be more guys
I would say talk this out and maybe you should approach him with an iron fist
but why risk the abuse?oreal
I understand that you love him but do you love yourself because if you loved yourself you would not allow someone to hurt you over and over again.
Your family has been a part of your life since you were born they want to protect you and enjoy you for you they do not want you to have a future of being hurt.
Maybe you are confused on your love for this man.Maybe you have put him on a pedestal and what you see is only the good and no bad in this man.
You need to ask yourself a question of what you really want in life not who.
No matter what you do you cannot change someone and in most cases the person cannot change themselves without extensive work and sacrifice.
I'm sorry to tell you this but you need to find yourself before entering into a serious relationship
I will keep you in my prayersSeriouse relationship problems... please give me your best advice..?
Call the police. Seriously.
Don't ever ever torture yourself and stay in an abusive relationship. He's never going to change his ways, even if he says he will. And if he does, it will only be temporary. You've known him for a long time, and you've seen how he can be. Is this something you want for the rest of your life?
You can't make him change. You can change yourself, and change what you will and will not tolerate! Do you deserve to be abused? I didn't think so.
If you can't find the strength to tell him how you feel and you're afraid of him, then I would suggest you tell someone that is going to help you get out of that situation before the abuse becomes severe! Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life in fear? He's got some underline issues that he needs to get resolved.
Stop letting him abuse you! You weren't created to be abused! You were created to Praise God and to be loved and nourished, and taken care of. Find your strength and use it to get him some help or get away from the abuse!
No offense
dump his sorry ***
good thing you're not married yet
THere's a difference between him bring controlling and insecure and him being down right abusive
there'll be more guys
I would say talk this out and maybe you should approach him with an iron fist
but why risk the abuse?
New relationship...need help reading her signs. Womanly advice welcome!!?
I have been dating a woman for about 2 months now. I love to be with her and think about her all the time. She says the same about me (less than me). However, sometimes I can't tell where we are at. Friday we had a great time out and she was affectionate and attentive. Saturday was basically the same. Sunday though she seemed annoyed and could care less that I was there at her house. Said maybe two words to me. (yes we hung out basically 3 days in a row I know!). There are other days too where she is affectionate one second and totally alloof the next. I don't get it. Is it getting comfortable this soon for her? I am definately not comfortable yet. Should I just back off for a while and let her make the next call or set up the next date? Should I stop letting us set up entire weekends together? Any advice is helpfull, maybe even a little womanly intuition would be helpfull here. Thanks.
-Totally Confused.New relationship...need help reading her signs. Womanly advice welcome!!?
From personal experience.
It sounds like she does really like you...good for you!
I will tell you that I personally really enjoy my alone time. If I don't get that one day to myself, I act the same way. I just don't like to say ';leave me alone, I want to have some time to myself';. I haven't found a nice way to say that. What you may want to do is maybe say something to her like ';want me to come over, or do you just want to relax by yourself';. She'll totally appreciate the consideration.New relationship...need help reading her signs. Womanly advice welcome!!?
i suggest giving her some space. some girls don't like having the guy around all the time. maybe she just wants some time to hang out with her friends or something.
you were totally focused on her for 3 days and she got burnt out, as anyone would ... ask yourself, why is it that when I get into a relationship insted of doing what I would normally do and including my new GF ... I drop everything I'm into, and focus all my attention on her... if you can answer that, it will lead to the bigger question ... is the source of my happiness from inside me? or am I looking for it in someone else
Maybe shes an independent woman and shes not used to having someone with her 24/7. Or shes just moody, stressed out etc.
bless ur heart ~women we r so hard to understand sometimes just use your gut feeling and follow your heart my best to you!!!
Hi there, Jasper:
It sounds to me like she's just got a small issue of mood swings. In the idea situation, you SHOULD talk to her about it, because if you want a lasting, solid relationship w/ this woman, communication is the key! Ask her about it; don't be accusing or insensitive, just mention the fact that she seems kinda upset/distracted some days %26amp; you'd like to know if there are any issues she needs to talk about %26amp;/or if something is bothering her. Take what she gives you the first time %26amp; don't continue to flog the dead horse. But yes, communicate this problem with her at all costs.
She may be a softy %26amp; not want to be mean %26amp; tell you she wants/needs some time alone, so she is getting pissy when you're around too much; yet, she knows she dug HERSELF into that hole by not telling you up-front, so she's grumping around %26amp; being pissy, but not talking; that could be one reason. Anywho, I would back off a bit. Don't STOP calling her, just let up a bit. Lay off the 3-day weekends, unless she suggests them. Don't stop setting up dates, but again, losen up on the frequency. Let her meet you half way on the involvment in the relationship %26amp; if at all possible, again, TALK TO HER. It's the only real way to know for sure whats in her heart %26amp; on her mind! Best of Luck!
us women have our moments, like pms, hormone crazies, maybe you should just ask her, and i might add, i'm an affectionate women, my feelings get hurt when shadeyness is present...talk to her really..if that doesnt solve things then might be your sign to back off...
give her some space. it may be too much too soon.
I have to admit that women are hard to read they say one thing and really mean the other.I'm a women my self and i can't figure my self out most of the time.The best thing for you to do is sit down with her explain to her what you just said to us and see what she has to say about it, and then go from there.Good Luck and God Bless
-Totally Confused.New relationship...need help reading her signs. Womanly advice welcome!!?
From personal experience.
It sounds like she does really like you...good for you!
I will tell you that I personally really enjoy my alone time. If I don't get that one day to myself, I act the same way. I just don't like to say ';leave me alone, I want to have some time to myself';. I haven't found a nice way to say that. What you may want to do is maybe say something to her like ';want me to come over, or do you just want to relax by yourself';. She'll totally appreciate the consideration.New relationship...need help reading her signs. Womanly advice welcome!!?
i suggest giving her some space. some girls don't like having the guy around all the time. maybe she just wants some time to hang out with her friends or something.
you were totally focused on her for 3 days and she got burnt out, as anyone would ... ask yourself, why is it that when I get into a relationship insted of doing what I would normally do and including my new GF ... I drop everything I'm into, and focus all my attention on her... if you can answer that, it will lead to the bigger question ... is the source of my happiness from inside me? or am I looking for it in someone else
Maybe shes an independent woman and shes not used to having someone with her 24/7. Or shes just moody, stressed out etc.
bless ur heart ~women we r so hard to understand sometimes just use your gut feeling and follow your heart my best to you!!!
Hi there, Jasper:
It sounds to me like she's just got a small issue of mood swings. In the idea situation, you SHOULD talk to her about it, because if you want a lasting, solid relationship w/ this woman, communication is the key! Ask her about it; don't be accusing or insensitive, just mention the fact that she seems kinda upset/distracted some days %26amp; you'd like to know if there are any issues she needs to talk about %26amp;/or if something is bothering her. Take what she gives you the first time %26amp; don't continue to flog the dead horse. But yes, communicate this problem with her at all costs.
She may be a softy %26amp; not want to be mean %26amp; tell you she wants/needs some time alone, so she is getting pissy when you're around too much; yet, she knows she dug HERSELF into that hole by not telling you up-front, so she's grumping around %26amp; being pissy, but not talking; that could be one reason. Anywho, I would back off a bit. Don't STOP calling her, just let up a bit. Lay off the 3-day weekends, unless she suggests them. Don't stop setting up dates, but again, losen up on the frequency. Let her meet you half way on the involvment in the relationship %26amp; if at all possible, again, TALK TO HER. It's the only real way to know for sure whats in her heart %26amp; on her mind! Best of Luck!
us women have our moments, like pms, hormone crazies, maybe you should just ask her, and i might add, i'm an affectionate women, my feelings get hurt when shadeyness is present...talk to her really..if that doesnt solve things then might be your sign to back off...
give her some space. it may be too much too soon.
I have to admit that women are hard to read they say one thing and really mean the other.I'm a women my self and i can't figure my self out most of the time.The best thing for you to do is sit down with her explain to her what you just said to us and see what she has to say about it, and then go from there.Good Luck and God Bless
I'm confused about relationship with my friend..please help! Advice needed...(superiority complex)?
Well...my friend and I have know each other since 6th grade...met in gym class. I constantly feel the need to be better than her...It's really weird, because I am not competitive at all by nature. I'm usually very calm...very shy...don't talk much or argue...but with her it like flips my personality. I'm sarcastic and sadistic...I argue all the time. She is naturally a veyr angry person...I don't think we've ever gone more than a week without getting into some sort of fight. She says she loves me like a sister....she's not even my best friend. She's kind(as far as she goes) to me....but she talks about me behind my back. She's jealous...she's said it a few times. I feel bad for her, because she has a lot of family problems and not many friends, but this relationship is jsut so complicated and strange...it's hardly a friendship at all. Well..it is at times, and then not...it's weird. But very very stressful...and I don't know, what do you guys think I should do?I'm confused about relationship with my friend..please help! Advice needed...(superiority complex)?
End the friendship it's not healthy.I'm confused about relationship with my friend..please help! Advice needed...(superiority complex)?
im not one to tell any one what they should do but i like to give advice so here it goese.... i had a friend alot like the one you have but we didnt fight as much as you two but we didnt hang out that much we did in school but that was about it im not as competitive as it sounds as you are but im not much of a fightter i do every once in a while and thats only if i have to and this is what i did i just let him do his own thing and just went with it we both quite hanging out even at school and we just left it at that but you two could do something diffent and could all still get along and i think that would be cool i think everyone could use as many friends as possible friends can come in handy in many place more than you know
End the friendship it's not healthy.I'm confused about relationship with my friend..please help! Advice needed...(superiority complex)?
im not one to tell any one what they should do but i like to give advice so here it goese.... i had a friend alot like the one you have but we didnt fight as much as you two but we didnt hang out that much we did in school but that was about it im not as competitive as it sounds as you are but im not much of a fightter i do every once in a while and thats only if i have to and this is what i did i just let him do his own thing and just went with it we both quite hanging out even at school and we just left it at that but you two could do something diffent and could all still get along and i think that would be cool i think everyone could use as many friends as possible friends can come in handy in many place more than you know
Need Advice.My brother is getting into a relationship with someone I despise.?
The reason is I despise that person is because , I have natural hair and she said that '; I needed a perm,and called my hair nappy'; I am very hurt over this comment,and I dont want my brother fooling with this person ,what do I do?Need Advice.My brother is getting into a relationship with someone I despise.?
Um..shave her head while she sleeps?
Um..shave her head while she sleeps?
Is this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
I keep going out with my close female friend, we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.This happens at least every 2 weeks, if not on a weekly basis. We鈥檙e attracted to each other, flirt with each other, we鈥檙e in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me,feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc
She doesn鈥檛 like it when I mention other girls that I鈥檓 interested in or ask her for advice concerning them.She always tells me that she never pulled when she went out,she鈥檚 not interested in anyone, don鈥檛 fancy anyone,etc
We kissed once(very passionate,all over each other)a few months back and she said we should remain friends.She said that I don鈥檛 do it for her(also kiss), but still finds me attractive and the thought of us being intimate doesn鈥檛 repulse her. So how can鈥檛 I do it for her?Is this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
Dear :
She is not a psyco nor is she a c***k tease!Nor is she playing you!
From my point of view it seems that this girl really loves you and wants you forever in her life!Because of the fact that she never had a relationship before she is scared that if She goes to the next level with you then she might lose you and your friendship!
It is so hard for girls to find a best friend in the guy they love and most often when a girl spends most of her time with a boy she considers her friend she grows to love him very strongly!
She doesnot advice and like hearing about other girls because she loves you and she doesnot want anyone to take you away from her!
You will want to know then why does she not get into a relationship with you, and why she apologises and says there can be no relationship!
This girl loves you soo much that she is afraid that you will turn her away or just get fedup of her!Maybe she knows your history with other girls and she is afraid to end up like them!
Sit down with her and confess your love and tell her that you will always be her best friend and lover if she wishes it!
Make it clear that if ahe does not want you then if another girl comes along you will have no choice as you cannot remain single for ever-but do this gently!
Just make her known that your outings and fun will not stop if the two of you become lovers!
You see, most times when a woman enters a relationship the fun she had before with the guy is gone!Thats what she is afraid of!Just reassure her that lovers doesnot mean the elimination of fun!
Goodluck and dodnot hurt her for it seems that you will never find a girl that loves you as mush as her!
Love SANAMIs this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
stop forcing the issue --- you are both an item --- stop mentioning other ladies --- dont say anything --- dont see any dont talk about any ---- she will notice
go out together as you have been doing ---- see what happens
hang in there..sounds like she really does want you but she may really be scared that if she admits it, something will go wrong and she will lose you...maybe even as a friend. maybe if you don't mention other girls to her it would help...only talk about her and as if she is the only one....hopefully that will make her feel more secure about a real relationship....good luck....no one ever said love is easy......
you had me feeling all sad for you right up til the phrase 'c**k tease' you are obviously quite a frustrated guy over this and no woman likes to be called that unless in a saucy moment with her beloved...its not nice...
i think she sounds quite confused and to be honest you can love someone and wish that you could be together on another level but it just doesnt kick in physically for you so ts no good but it doesnt stop the emotonal feelings...i think your best option would be to sit her down without pressuring her and just tell her that you like her but she has said that she isnt interested in that kind of relationship and you respect that but if thats the case then you would like her to accept that you do have needs and wishes of your own and that she has to allow you the space and respect of still being you friend if you see other women ...if she doesnt want to talk write her a letter and give it to her saying that you know he doesnt like to talk so would she read the letter and come back to you to talk or give you a letter back in response...hope this helps but make sure you keep that frustration under wraps...its not attractive...;0)
You already know this... she is very close to you as a friend, AND on a more intimate level.
She does feel jealousy and is hurt by the thought of not having you, but at the same time, is probably scared of what the cost could be if it went wrong. Some people live for YEARS with these untouchable, secret feelings.
Ask her on a date.... tell her you DO like her, treat her as someone very special so that she can see you think of her as more than 'just' a friend. It really is better to take a chance and experience love than to always wonder what might have been. An enduring friendship will survive if there isn't anything else in it.
I think she has really deep feelings for you, but is possibly scared of a sexual relationship with you. You don't say how old you both are. If you carry on the same way you are now, it could develop into something deeper when she's ready, but it's a risk...you could be wasting your time.
This is a relationship already. At least for you. It's OK, after all you do get to socialize, but don't expect anything more.
hi. i dont know why you got thumbs down. anyway she sounds scared of ruining anything you have got as friends and when you are in a relationship it goes much further and she may be frightened it could turn sour halfway down the line and losing your friendship and love altogether so she sounds confused about what she wants from you and ive no doubt this girl is crazy for you she just dont know what to do about it thats why she changes the topic. my advice tell her you know shes tryin to change the subject but tell her life is too short and if you dont give it a go then you will always be the buts if's and maybes.
You need to just be honest with eachother, it appears that there is a lot of dodging the real situation here and a lot of avoiding the truth. Just tell her how you feel, if she doesn't want to admit to anything, then she is playing games with you and isn't worth it. It's going to take one of you to put a stop to that and unfortunately - it looks like it's going to be you.
I think she likes you but never want to be your girlfriend. She likes you for sure -- she wants you to be with her but doesn't want a relationship with you. Quite confusing huh?! If you want to be her ''formal'; boyfriend and in a serious relationship with her, I suggest you to speak to her. It's better if -she is my girlfriend or she isn't - than keep thinking about this.
You really loved this girl huh... =) Wish you the best!
You sure talk a lot LOL! This girl has got you wind up! YOU HAVE TO GET A GRIP! She is playing you from both ends! as for you don't get this other girl you dating hurt beacuse you have feelings for your friend i think you need to be by yourself! I think ya need to be serious for once if not get some space!
I know this is easy for me to say, but why cant you just ask her out on a date. Tell her how you feel about her. Maybe she feels the saame as you but is too scared to tell you in case you dont feel anything but friendship for her.
This is a very difficult situation but unless you tell her how you feel you will not be able to move on with your life , if she genuinely doesnt want you as her boyfriend..
Good luck and I hope it all works out the way you want it too.
shame... i think that she likes you but somehow i think that she may need some convincing from your side. i think you have a chance here otherwise here's no point in beating yourself over for someone who doesn't want to give themselves to you.
yeah what she said,she`s mad for you..and won't accept it..try to hit on her ...
It sounds to me that you have been manupilated by a woman who doesn't find you sexually appealing and cannot see herself with you but yet she wants you single just in case. Never ever waste time on someone who will not make it obvious that she wants to be *more* than friends. Let her go, experience your life and if she gets jealous about it she isn't worth keeping as a friend. Friends don't do that to one another.
She's mad for you but for some reason won't admit it !!! Maybe she's scared it'll all end in tears !!!
sounds to me like she does really have very deep feelings for you, but wont admit it for whatever reason. She may be scared of losing you if it all goes wrong. Bear with it and i'm sure in time you'll get together. Dont mention other girls to her as it only makes her jealous.
She sounds like she really likes you a lot and in a romantic way ..............but she also seems to have a barrier up.........has she been hurt before in another relationship? Have patience and perhaps she may surprise you and drop the barrier. I hope so for your sake because you sound like you are very fond of her.
Sounds like she enjoys hanging around with you, until someone else comes along. You should get on with your life, you have given her the opportunity and she doesnt want a relationship, so move on, if you are meant to be together you will.
Okay, so I'm not a girl....
It sounds to me that she cares for you deeply - as a friend. Jealousy happens, even in a platonic relationship; she may be worried that you won't want to see her any more if you start seeing someone else.
You obviously want to be more than friends. Ask her. If she says no, then you still have a very good friend and at least you know where you stand.
I think she is having feeling for you but due to some very strong personal reason she is not admitting it......Acc to me...u should just make her feel more comfortable with ur friendship so dta she vomit out all going inside her and yell her love for u......!
She might be afraid to admit her feelings or to take the step that will lead to a committment. You did say she hasn't had a boyfriend before so maybe she's unsure and afraid of what will happen.
You've tried talking to her and it obviously hasnt worked. I would say try to persuade her by other means i.e. show her what a great boyfriend you would make without actually mentioning the subject again, so buy her flowers etc. Hopefully she will soon admit her true feelings.
this girl obviously feels a great deal for u. but it is obviously scared of ruining the bond and friendship the two of you have built up. she just needs lots of time to realise if ya want something in life there are usually risks. if you can reassure this girl that you think the world of her and that no matter what you will always be friends and you will always be there for her then given time she will realise you are worth the risk, as you have waited patiently untill she is ready to move forward. hope all goes well mate.
She is totally, utterly besotted with you but for some reason cannot admit it! Maybe something bad has happened to her in her childhood that makes her unable to admit her feelings - or maybe someone she really trusted/loved in the past left her without any explanation! Its a tuff one and i really really wish you the best of luck! You both deserve to be happy TOGETHER!!!!! Goodluck xxx
You are a good friend, if you had a relationship and it didn't work, then she has lost this good friend too. She doesn't want to risk that, so if you get too close she backs off, although she probably loves you, she would rather have you as a friend for ever or not
at all.
Elaine
She doesn鈥檛 like it when I mention other girls that I鈥檓 interested in or ask her for advice concerning them.She always tells me that she never pulled when she went out,she鈥檚 not interested in anyone, don鈥檛 fancy anyone,etc
We kissed once(very passionate,all over each other)a few months back and she said we should remain friends.She said that I don鈥檛 do it for her(also kiss), but still finds me attractive and the thought of us being intimate doesn鈥檛 repulse her. So how can鈥檛 I do it for her?Is this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
Dear :
She is not a psyco nor is she a c***k tease!Nor is she playing you!
From my point of view it seems that this girl really loves you and wants you forever in her life!Because of the fact that she never had a relationship before she is scared that if She goes to the next level with you then she might lose you and your friendship!
It is so hard for girls to find a best friend in the guy they love and most often when a girl spends most of her time with a boy she considers her friend she grows to love him very strongly!
She doesnot advice and like hearing about other girls because she loves you and she doesnot want anyone to take you away from her!
You will want to know then why does she not get into a relationship with you, and why she apologises and says there can be no relationship!
This girl loves you soo much that she is afraid that you will turn her away or just get fedup of her!Maybe she knows your history with other girls and she is afraid to end up like them!
Sit down with her and confess your love and tell her that you will always be her best friend and lover if she wishes it!
Make it clear that if ahe does not want you then if another girl comes along you will have no choice as you cannot remain single for ever-but do this gently!
Just make her known that your outings and fun will not stop if the two of you become lovers!
You see, most times when a woman enters a relationship the fun she had before with the guy is gone!Thats what she is afraid of!Just reassure her that lovers doesnot mean the elimination of fun!
Goodluck and dodnot hurt her for it seems that you will never find a girl that loves you as mush as her!
Love SANAMIs this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
stop forcing the issue --- you are both an item --- stop mentioning other ladies --- dont say anything --- dont see any dont talk about any ---- she will notice
go out together as you have been doing ---- see what happens
hang in there..sounds like she really does want you but she may really be scared that if she admits it, something will go wrong and she will lose you...maybe even as a friend. maybe if you don't mention other girls to her it would help...only talk about her and as if she is the only one....hopefully that will make her feel more secure about a real relationship....good luck....no one ever said love is easy......
you had me feeling all sad for you right up til the phrase 'c**k tease' you are obviously quite a frustrated guy over this and no woman likes to be called that unless in a saucy moment with her beloved...its not nice...
i think she sounds quite confused and to be honest you can love someone and wish that you could be together on another level but it just doesnt kick in physically for you so ts no good but it doesnt stop the emotonal feelings...i think your best option would be to sit her down without pressuring her and just tell her that you like her but she has said that she isnt interested in that kind of relationship and you respect that but if thats the case then you would like her to accept that you do have needs and wishes of your own and that she has to allow you the space and respect of still being you friend if you see other women ...if she doesnt want to talk write her a letter and give it to her saying that you know he doesnt like to talk so would she read the letter and come back to you to talk or give you a letter back in response...hope this helps but make sure you keep that frustration under wraps...its not attractive...;0)
You already know this... she is very close to you as a friend, AND on a more intimate level.
She does feel jealousy and is hurt by the thought of not having you, but at the same time, is probably scared of what the cost could be if it went wrong. Some people live for YEARS with these untouchable, secret feelings.
Ask her on a date.... tell her you DO like her, treat her as someone very special so that she can see you think of her as more than 'just' a friend. It really is better to take a chance and experience love than to always wonder what might have been. An enduring friendship will survive if there isn't anything else in it.
I think she has really deep feelings for you, but is possibly scared of a sexual relationship with you. You don't say how old you both are. If you carry on the same way you are now, it could develop into something deeper when she's ready, but it's a risk...you could be wasting your time.
This is a relationship already. At least for you. It's OK, after all you do get to socialize, but don't expect anything more.
hi. i dont know why you got thumbs down. anyway she sounds scared of ruining anything you have got as friends and when you are in a relationship it goes much further and she may be frightened it could turn sour halfway down the line and losing your friendship and love altogether so she sounds confused about what she wants from you and ive no doubt this girl is crazy for you she just dont know what to do about it thats why she changes the topic. my advice tell her you know shes tryin to change the subject but tell her life is too short and if you dont give it a go then you will always be the buts if's and maybes.
You need to just be honest with eachother, it appears that there is a lot of dodging the real situation here and a lot of avoiding the truth. Just tell her how you feel, if she doesn't want to admit to anything, then she is playing games with you and isn't worth it. It's going to take one of you to put a stop to that and unfortunately - it looks like it's going to be you.
I think she likes you but never want to be your girlfriend. She likes you for sure -- she wants you to be with her but doesn't want a relationship with you. Quite confusing huh?! If you want to be her ''formal'; boyfriend and in a serious relationship with her, I suggest you to speak to her. It's better if -she is my girlfriend or she isn't - than keep thinking about this.
You really loved this girl huh... =) Wish you the best!
You sure talk a lot LOL! This girl has got you wind up! YOU HAVE TO GET A GRIP! She is playing you from both ends! as for you don't get this other girl you dating hurt beacuse you have feelings for your friend i think you need to be by yourself! I think ya need to be serious for once if not get some space!
I know this is easy for me to say, but why cant you just ask her out on a date. Tell her how you feel about her. Maybe she feels the saame as you but is too scared to tell you in case you dont feel anything but friendship for her.
This is a very difficult situation but unless you tell her how you feel you will not be able to move on with your life , if she genuinely doesnt want you as her boyfriend..
Good luck and I hope it all works out the way you want it too.
shame... i think that she likes you but somehow i think that she may need some convincing from your side. i think you have a chance here otherwise here's no point in beating yourself over for someone who doesn't want to give themselves to you.
yeah what she said,she`s mad for you..and won't accept it..try to hit on her ...
It sounds to me that you have been manupilated by a woman who doesn't find you sexually appealing and cannot see herself with you but yet she wants you single just in case. Never ever waste time on someone who will not make it obvious that she wants to be *more* than friends. Let her go, experience your life and if she gets jealous about it she isn't worth keeping as a friend. Friends don't do that to one another.
She's mad for you but for some reason won't admit it !!! Maybe she's scared it'll all end in tears !!!
sounds to me like she does really have very deep feelings for you, but wont admit it for whatever reason. She may be scared of losing you if it all goes wrong. Bear with it and i'm sure in time you'll get together. Dont mention other girls to her as it only makes her jealous.
She sounds like she really likes you a lot and in a romantic way ..............but she also seems to have a barrier up.........has she been hurt before in another relationship? Have patience and perhaps she may surprise you and drop the barrier. I hope so for your sake because you sound like you are very fond of her.
Sounds like she enjoys hanging around with you, until someone else comes along. You should get on with your life, you have given her the opportunity and she doesnt want a relationship, so move on, if you are meant to be together you will.
Okay, so I'm not a girl....
It sounds to me that she cares for you deeply - as a friend. Jealousy happens, even in a platonic relationship; she may be worried that you won't want to see her any more if you start seeing someone else.
You obviously want to be more than friends. Ask her. If she says no, then you still have a very good friend and at least you know where you stand.
I think she is having feeling for you but due to some very strong personal reason she is not admitting it......Acc to me...u should just make her feel more comfortable with ur friendship so dta she vomit out all going inside her and yell her love for u......!
She might be afraid to admit her feelings or to take the step that will lead to a committment. You did say she hasn't had a boyfriend before so maybe she's unsure and afraid of what will happen.
You've tried talking to her and it obviously hasnt worked. I would say try to persuade her by other means i.e. show her what a great boyfriend you would make without actually mentioning the subject again, so buy her flowers etc. Hopefully she will soon admit her true feelings.
this girl obviously feels a great deal for u. but it is obviously scared of ruining the bond and friendship the two of you have built up. she just needs lots of time to realise if ya want something in life there are usually risks. if you can reassure this girl that you think the world of her and that no matter what you will always be friends and you will always be there for her then given time she will realise you are worth the risk, as you have waited patiently untill she is ready to move forward. hope all goes well mate.
She is totally, utterly besotted with you but for some reason cannot admit it! Maybe something bad has happened to her in her childhood that makes her unable to admit her feelings - or maybe someone she really trusted/loved in the past left her without any explanation! Its a tuff one and i really really wish you the best of luck! You both deserve to be happy TOGETHER!!!!! Goodluck xxx
You are a good friend, if you had a relationship and it didn't work, then she has lost this good friend too. She doesn't want to risk that, so if you get too close she backs off, although she probably loves you, she would rather have you as a friend for ever or not
at all.
Elaine
Girl leaving a longer relationship for someone she barely knows .... advice?
So I barely know this girl from one of my classes and shes been talking to me telling me she thinks im really good looking. We seem to share some things in common but have never hung out.
Anyways she invited me to hang out/maybe go on a date about a week ago. Then I found out she was in a relationship and said that I wanted to but didnt think it would be a good idea since she had a boyfriend. (seems to have been a decently long relationship 1-2 years) She said I was probably right but that they had been on the outs for a while.
So about a week passes and now shes single and trying to talk to me again.
How long should I wait to make sure things are resolved before doing anything ?
Should I even bother if she is so quick to drop one guy for another?Girl leaving a longer relationship for someone she barely knows .... advice?
It won't hurt, to go out and talk to her. Just be careful before giving her your heart. Talking to people is okay, get to know her better and you might be surprised because sometime what you think you know you really don't have a clue about.
Good Luck!Girl leaving a longer relationship for someone she barely knows .... advice?
It is best for you, as a new intimate factor in her life, to stay out of such a relationship to avoid further conflict from her ex. So wait for about a month or two (maintaining friendship) or until it all cools down and then you can date her. Best of regards, and Godspeed.
Dude, relationships have their ups and downs... so this is a clear sign that this girl isn't in it for the long haul... if you start on a down, then she's going to book for the next guy she finds good looking. So, advice, if you want to have some fun, go for it whenever you feel like it, but I wouldn't get ';involved'; with her if i were you...
This personally happened to me. Some kid was up by four months and I was a dick for a year. But now I'm the man, and that kid sucked anyway, woo hoo, I am a success of a man.
Ps. Last month's issue of Maxim, COXER IS FIGURE SKATING!
chances are she is ganna tell you that he was a abusive asshole and a jerk. its not true. you give her more attention than the other guy since its something new. you flatter her more right now. she thinks things will be better with you. but she will be back with the other dude
It would really depend on the reason why she broke up with her boyfriend.
Was it a mature decision on both parties?
there's nothing wrong with having her just as a close friend for now, so you can get to know her better.
HAH! i wouldnt touch her! she sounds like a cheater! i bet by the sounds of it that her and her boyfriend break up and make up alot and all the guys inbetween are rebound.
If you think that you like her than all you can do is try and see if it works out maybe she will be diffrent with you
well she aint worth it! i bet shell do that again!http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
go for it. early bird gets the worm. she might meet someone else so why waste time. if anything, take as a hint the fact that she broke up with him shortly after she asked her out.
Last line of your question sums it up quite nicely. You know what's going to happen.
id say its not worth it ..
if she did that to him who's to say she wont do that to you..
sounds like a whore to me
that seems like the type of person who seems to always be looking for ';the next best thing';. BUT she really might have been having problems in her former reationship, so it's a really hard one to call. i think your best bet is to wait a few weeks and make sure, that SHE is sure of what she wants, and make sure she's not just telling you she's over with her ex, to try and get you to date her, just to see which one she wants. i would go to her myspace and her ex bfs too and try to see if shes telling the truth.
Anyways she invited me to hang out/maybe go on a date about a week ago. Then I found out she was in a relationship and said that I wanted to but didnt think it would be a good idea since she had a boyfriend. (seems to have been a decently long relationship 1-2 years) She said I was probably right but that they had been on the outs for a while.
So about a week passes and now shes single and trying to talk to me again.
How long should I wait to make sure things are resolved before doing anything ?
Should I even bother if she is so quick to drop one guy for another?Girl leaving a longer relationship for someone she barely knows .... advice?
It won't hurt, to go out and talk to her. Just be careful before giving her your heart. Talking to people is okay, get to know her better and you might be surprised because sometime what you think you know you really don't have a clue about.
Good Luck!Girl leaving a longer relationship for someone she barely knows .... advice?
It is best for you, as a new intimate factor in her life, to stay out of such a relationship to avoid further conflict from her ex. So wait for about a month or two (maintaining friendship) or until it all cools down and then you can date her. Best of regards, and Godspeed.
Dude, relationships have their ups and downs... so this is a clear sign that this girl isn't in it for the long haul... if you start on a down, then she's going to book for the next guy she finds good looking. So, advice, if you want to have some fun, go for it whenever you feel like it, but I wouldn't get ';involved'; with her if i were you...
This personally happened to me. Some kid was up by four months and I was a dick for a year. But now I'm the man, and that kid sucked anyway, woo hoo, I am a success of a man.
Ps. Last month's issue of Maxim, COXER IS FIGURE SKATING!
chances are she is ganna tell you that he was a abusive asshole and a jerk. its not true. you give her more attention than the other guy since its something new. you flatter her more right now. she thinks things will be better with you. but she will be back with the other dude
It would really depend on the reason why she broke up with her boyfriend.
Was it a mature decision on both parties?
there's nothing wrong with having her just as a close friend for now, so you can get to know her better.
HAH! i wouldnt touch her! she sounds like a cheater! i bet by the sounds of it that her and her boyfriend break up and make up alot and all the guys inbetween are rebound.
If you think that you like her than all you can do is try and see if it works out maybe she will be diffrent with you
well she aint worth it! i bet shell do that again!http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
go for it. early bird gets the worm. she might meet someone else so why waste time. if anything, take as a hint the fact that she broke up with him shortly after she asked her out.
Last line of your question sums it up quite nicely. You know what's going to happen.
id say its not worth it ..
if she did that to him who's to say she wont do that to you..
sounds like a whore to me
that seems like the type of person who seems to always be looking for ';the next best thing';. BUT she really might have been having problems in her former reationship, so it's a really hard one to call. i think your best bet is to wait a few weeks and make sure, that SHE is sure of what she wants, and make sure she's not just telling you she's over with her ex, to try and get you to date her, just to see which one she wants. i would go to her myspace and her ex bfs too and try to see if shes telling the truth.
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