End relationship over friends or keep fighting? advice please?

ive been with my lady for a couple years now and love her to death. But since the beginning her (Best Friends) have been a problem. it wasn't always this way but over time its now to the point where hanging out is not an option still the more i try to fight the good fight(in my opinion) the more damage is being done. at the end of the day i want her to be happy but i need to be happy as well


i dont want her to have to choose between them and me but me takin a backseat to them aint gonna cut it


me being the person i am walking away doesn't sound so badEnd relationship over friends or keep fighting? advice please?
I have this problem with my friends.


They HATE my boyfriend, and when ever I go to see them all they do is bad mouth him and then when he is there with me they make snide remarks about the way he is and the things he likes.





Over the past two years that me and my boyfriend have been together I have slowly began to pull myself away from my friends as I find it completely unfair that they would be so selfish to ruin my happiness and put my feelings aside just to satisfy themselves. They make it akward for me to go anywhere as they always have something to say about it, and whenever I'm upset blame my boyfriend straight away.





I think you're being very noble in not wanting her to choose between them, but something has to be done. Her friends are sacrificing four different things.





Your happiness


Her happiness%26amp;


Your relationship


There friendship





And with everything they will blame anyone but themselves...


My best advice is just sit your girlfriend down and talk to her about it as much as you can, tell her you love her but you're not 100% willing to put up with her friends any longer, and you're not asking her to make the choice; but ask if she can ask her friends to tone it down a little and tell her exactly what they're sacrificing. Maybe they don't fully realise the extent of what they're doing.





Sorry if that isn't much help,


I wish you luck.End relationship over friends or keep fighting? advice please?
i say that you let her know the situation and try to come up with a solution together. let her know exactley what they do to make you feel uncomfortable or whatever. if you reaqlly love her and she you, then you should be able to come up with a compromise, which is all that a relationship is, trust and compromise, once compromises arent an option, thats when people break apart. so no compromise...then u gotta walk
how come guys can just walk away no matter how long u have been with a girl gosh thats why guys suck. sorry but just cause ur having problems dont mean you should just walk away try talking to her about it any girl in the world would rather men try to fix the problem rather than walk away
I know you said you don't want to let her decide. But you got to tell her how you feel, and tell her you love her... But I can't be around your friends. If she loves you, she should go to you in a heartbeat...





Did that make me sound gay or what? Good luck, man
You should do what you feel you need to do. Sit down and talk to her. tell her how you feel and that you can't take much more of it.
don't walk away...she will come around in time. just make sure that the times that you do spend with her will be good times. it's just a phase that she's going through. she and/or her friends will get sick of eachother, at least somewhat, and she will fill that empty void with you. don't stress about it too much. try writing her a love letter or a poem. it might get her seeing that your feelings are still there for her and it will prompt her to feel that euphoria that you get when you are in love...creating a (another) bond between the two of you. or take her out and do something spontanious. tell her, ';I won't take no for an answer..'; if it's on the phone don't sound too desparate..but longing for her company. if its face to face just kinda pout, don't fight or argue..just seem genuine and maybe pout and smile then hug her. how could she say no to that? lol. Make sure and let her know that you are glad that she has such close friends and are happy that she is happy but that she makes you happy too and you would like more time with her as well. good luck. =]
just really emphasize how you are feeling and tell her next time you and her get in a fight over this and she doesnt resolve the problem herself, then you are leaving, emphasize that you dont want her to choose between you or them but that you want to figure something out. dont leave her the first time it happens again but repeat this process until about the third fight then really leave... you both have to be happy, leaving someone you love is hard to do and hurts really bad, but if she loves you as much as you love her then she should work with you to figure something out. anyways good look man, and remember even true love doesnt always work out.
why don't you fake walking away. stop calling her and don't answer her calls for a while then see if she still calls after a week. If she does then tell her you've been feeling worried cause you feel her friends are getting in the way of your relationship. If she something you positive. I'll try to make things better or i love you don't leave me stay with her and ask her to love you and put you before her friends. If she starts bitching tell her you'd rather not be in a relationship like that, and break it off.


the week missing you will give her time to process what she really wants. but this is a decision you want to make if you are able to let her go.
Oh, man - you are not going to like my answer but it's the best advise I can give you. You are not going to win this battle. You and your lady_friend have had several years, by your own admission, to resolve this issue of her, you, and her friends. It has not worked itself out by now ... and is not likely to anytime soon. If you are unhappy with the current situation, you might want to resign yourself to it for the next six years or so..A pattern has established itself and you, also, have adapted to it over the years and as such, have implicitly accepted it.





Your frustration now is a turning point, a break point, in your relationship with your lady. The question to you is: is this a deal-breaker for your relationship, or does it just piss you off? If it is the former, then make it clean and break it off; carrying the hurt with you is only going to poison you and her and anyone else down the line for years to come. If it just pisses you off, ... well, that's part of the game, dude; we don't get everything we want and we just have to live with that.





Good luck, amigo.