I'm having relationship problems. Does anyone have any advice?

I'm an 18 year old gay male in a relationship. Recently, our 5 month relationship has been in a bit of turmoil. He is going off to college (40 minutes away) and seems to be a bit apprehensive about continuing things if he's going to be beginning a completely new stage. He says we'll be living two completely different lives. I've tried to ask him why he wants to break something that's working, and it doesn't seem to register. It almost seems like we're drifting apart because of this. I've also told him that he will never hold on to anybody if he always looks to what's next, but he still doesn't seem to understand.





He's difficult to describe. Although I think he gets attached quickly, I believe he over-analyzes everything. He told me he's afraid of ';falling in love with the wrong person.'; This is my first real relationship, so I really don't know what the hell I'm doing either. I do have feelings for him, and I would be really upset if it ended over this.





I broke out the math a few nights ago and he got really upset. If there are 8,000 people at your college,4,000 are women, 97% are straight, etc. I wasn't trying to make the case for me, but I just can't believe someone would want to end things if everything seems fine.





Thanks!I'm having relationship problems. Does anyone have any advice?
well i understand being hurt and everything but dont u think ur being a bit selfish here? ';let the person u love go, if they come back their urs, if they dont, they never were'; live by tht quote in this situation..maybe let him end it and continue being friends with him..hes gonna be new at college and hes going to want to experience new things..remain friends and see waht happens from there is the best u can do in this situation without forcing him into something tht he doesnt want.I'm having relationship problems. Does anyone have any advice?
It is said that when you love someone or something you let it go, if it comes back, it was meant to be if not, you chuck it down as experience.


That part about falling in love with the wrong person sounds like BS to me, but only your heart can tell you what to do.


Good luck.
Maybe he is just scared about falling in love. Like he said. Maybe he know he will like cheat on you or something and doesn't want to hurt you...question is do you love him? if you do then tell him! and tell him how much he means to you. tell him every thought about him that you ever had. Ask him if he loves you and if he does why would he want to break you guys up. Just keep repeating what you are doing and eventually it gets to them and they'll understand.
The problem is that you two really will be living two completely different lives. The thing about college is that it's main purpose is to give you a completely new experience. A lot of this does involve meeting new people, and some of it definitely involves new relationships. The sad thing is that if he cannot pursue other people because of you, he will just feel frustrated with you, and I know that isn't fair, and it isn't your fault, but I'm not sure if continuing the relationship is really even possible. I would try not to feel too mad at him for it... you'll probably feel the same way when you go off to college.
Are you not going to college?





If he is and you are not, then his pursuing of further self development makes you feel ';old'; because you aren't trying for it either.





In other words, he is advancing while you are staying behind. He probably feels this, and wants a companion who is his peer, and not someone who is going to be dragging him down. No offense.





A lot of people break ties when they go to college with old highschool relationships. It's pretty common. They usually find someone new in college and a lot of times, stay with them for a long time afterward.
well to be hnest with you its really hard what ur goin thru.. but it may sound harsh on you but i have to say u also have to move on. i know it may sound rude but you really cant do anything about it.. it hurt at first but eventually it will wear off.. coz if the other party decided not to pursue it.. one can try but once can only try until a certain point that u have to give up, the more u try hard the more hurtfull it will for you.. but i suggest take it slowly and hopefully it will be ok