Too serious relationship? read the details. i need advice from someone mature?

i'm 17. i have a BF. i'm his 1st GF. the relationship has been going for 1 month. but all he talks about are the future; marriage, kids, and how he wants to be w/ me FOREVER...frankly, these scare me. we even had some arguments about the amount of kids we want. he wants one. i don't want any. my opinion makes him sulks: ';this is going to be a problem in the future';.


i'm only 17, i should be hang out w/ friends, studying, exploring the world, not thinking SERIOUSLY about how many kids i want to have! i'm not mature enough to think about that! i need my space!


i expected this relationship to be a light, fun one, but he's too different from me. for him, a relationship should be ended by a marriage. but for me, it's not always like that.


i still want to know how it feels to be a single adult woman. i want to explore the world freely!


i can't stand these things...make me lose all my feelings to him in a short period of time! should i break up with him NOW? yet i'm afraid hurting him...Too serious relationship? read the details. i need advice from someone mature?
The fact that you realize you're too young to be in a serious relationship is actually a pretty mature attitude, and if you're his first girlfriend then its natural that he would get very attached and be thinking about his ';future with you';. I'm not saying that you should break up with him immediately, but you should definitely talk to him about the way that you're feeling and the sooner the better because the longer you wait, the harder it will be on both of you. Nobody likes to hurt someone they care about, but if you're not happy when you're with him then you need to be fair to yourself and to him. You're his first girlfriend and he'll realize soon enough that there will be others.





Hope this helps, best of luck! :)Too serious relationship? read the details. i need advice from someone mature?
I would break up with him if i was you. It seems your on different paths it will hurt him of course but staying with him longer will only hurt him more the sooner the better i say. you have already said you want to know what it is like to be a single woman so that means that you will break up with him anyway so why not now?
I think you should break up with him now IF after you talk to him about your feelings he still feels the same way about relationships.


I mean both of you deserve what you want and if you like things that are totally opposite then you both deserve more than each other.
u r 17 and have lot of time to explore the world before engaging your self into family - its yr first bf - u have to make a decision of your life - by saying no to him is ok - at least you are doing what is good for your life not his!!!!!!
well either you hurt him a little now, or a whole lot later. If you wait to long he is just going to get worse, cut the tie now and he and you will both be able to move on.
You will only hurt him if you let his feelings linger on while yours continue to fade away. Letting go is the right thing, opposites attract but not like that, this will most definitely turn out in disaster. Walk away now!
break up with him..its onlybeen one month and u already have these problemsss...and he wants ur children..hmm strange
You are a very smart girl. You have your whole life ahead of you and you aren't anywhere near ready to give up your dreams. You would me miserably unhappy if you did. Tell this boy that marriage is not in the near future for you. You want to get an education, find a great job, and travel. He should want the same things for himself and for you.


If he sulks, that is a sign of his immaturity. You two are not right for each other. You are light years more mature than he is. Tell him that it is time to concentrate on achieving your goals, not his.


Good luck. I see a bright future for you.
wow .. what is happening to you is exactly why i just broke up after 1 year.





i am 23, my GF is 18.


i made the mistake of buying a wedding ring!


it scarred her!





well i realized that afterwards i was being immature.. i really did, and i toned down the realtionship.





but it was too late, she did not want to be commited. and feared me and i lost her love. even though i said i wouldnt. she feared the future. a perfect love... lost.





what i learned is, 1st off. this guy doesnt know what he wants yet. i was in his shoes, he has the butterflies in his stoumach, he is excited about you. crazy about you. and all he see's is his lala land fantasy. listen, YOU need to ask yourself.. if you love him. and if you are actually willing to put up with him.. i guarantee after 1 or 2 years, he will come to his senses. it also helps to talk about it, and remind him constantly. and clarify it.





and you know what? another mistake i learned from. because i had warning signs too!





have your friends tell him as well. and be frank.. because half of what you say to him will go in one ear and out the other.





if overlooking this you think he is still worth it, theres no reason to end a perfectly good relationship.. after all, just cause he says he wants to marry you, doesnt mean YOU have to.





i only wish i could turn back the hands of time for me, although, maybe she would have stopped loving me none the less.
What is to be gained by prolonging this?





You know the two of you don't want the same thing, and if he's this way after one month, how will he be after two?





It seems inevitable that he's going to be hurt-- he's pretty much guaranteed that for himself. I'm sorry you don't have better options, but it appears that your choices are A) hurt him by breaking up now or B) waste a bunch of his time and yours, and THEN hurt him by breaking up.





I suppose if you want to be more manipulative about it, you can simply be extremely contrary and blunt about these disagreements and force him to break up with you, but that's kind of dishonest, and he certainly won't learn any of the badly-needed lessons that being dumped might teach him.
He seems to ber VERY clingy. At one month that's a bit much to be talking about. If you two are deeply serious, perhaps such talks should be held until many months/years into the relationship.





I see where you are coming from, though. It's normal to want to feel what it's like to be single and explore.





I, personally, have been nailed into place. My boyfriend and I are deeply passionate about one another, and we have began to start planning out our lives with each other. But we didn't start talking about these things until several months into our relationship.
Like myself, you are seventeen. I'm taking a break with a guy who is for me way too serious for our age! It's okay to be scared, its normal!





You have to talk with him and tell him you just want to focus on the two of you for now; no talk aboout what's happening later. Your relationship should be light and fun, and you should also want to be in it, not be finding a way out.





You need to explain to him that you only want to be in ';the now';, and not talk about the future. See how that goes, and if it doesn't go over well, you might have to break it off.
you are very right you are young and so is he ,,,,, neither one of you are career minded as of yet.... he sounds like a very self-centered type of guy....!!!! my advise to you is to tell him straight up your not ready, and you don't want to waste his time nor yours, and you need your space.... If you don't want to have children I would get the shots so you can't get pregnet...... your gut feelings already has said the truth.... follow it .... if he can't handle what you say stright -up LEAVE HIM for the relationshipship is very young!!!!! devoting alot of time than breaking up hurts worse!
relationships are meant to be forever, the whole point of dating is to eventually settle down, and it is good that he sees that in you instead of the opposite ( i dont ever want a house or to get married, im not sure we will make it to next week) the fact that he sees a future with is a good thing, but you seem to have a wild side too? are you going to college, you should be able to get out your exploration there, and if you dont want to be with him thats fine. i dont see anything wrong with imagining a future, as long as he knows that it is both imagining and a future..