Is this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!

I keep going out with my close female friend, we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.This happens at least every 2 weeks, if not on a weekly basis. We鈥檙e attracted to each other, flirt with each other, we鈥檙e in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me,feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc





She doesn鈥檛 like it when I mention other girls that I鈥檓 interested in or ask her for advice concerning them.She always tells me that she never pulled when she went out,she鈥檚 not interested in anyone, don鈥檛 fancy anyone,etc





We kissed once(very passionate,all over each other)a few months back and she said we should remain friends.She said that I don鈥檛 do it for her(also kiss), but still finds me attractive and the thought of us being intimate doesn鈥檛 repulse her. So how can鈥檛 I do it for her?Is this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
Dear :


She is not a psyco nor is she a c***k tease!Nor is she playing you!


From my point of view it seems that this girl really loves you and wants you forever in her life!Because of the fact that she never had a relationship before she is scared that if She goes to the next level with you then she might lose you and your friendship!


It is so hard for girls to find a best friend in the guy they love and most often when a girl spends most of her time with a boy she considers her friend she grows to love him very strongly!


She doesnot advice and like hearing about other girls because she loves you and she doesnot want anyone to take you away from her!


You will want to know then why does she not get into a relationship with you, and why she apologises and says there can be no relationship!


This girl loves you soo much that she is afraid that you will turn her away or just get fedup of her!Maybe she knows your history with other girls and she is afraid to end up like them!


Sit down with her and confess your love and tell her that you will always be her best friend and lover if she wishes it!


Make it clear that if ahe does not want you then if another girl comes along you will have no choice as you cannot remain single for ever-but do this gently!


Just make her known that your outings and fun will not stop if the two of you become lovers!


You see, most times when a woman enters a relationship the fun she had before with the guy is gone!Thats what she is afraid of!Just reassure her that lovers doesnot mean the elimination of fun!


Goodluck and dodnot hurt her for it seems that you will never find a girl that loves you as mush as her!


Love SANAMIs this a relationship? What's really going on?Girls advice鈥erious answers only please,ANY MORE ADVICE,THXS!
stop forcing the issue --- you are both an item --- stop mentioning other ladies --- dont say anything --- dont see any dont talk about any ---- she will notice





go out together as you have been doing ---- see what happens
hang in there..sounds like she really does want you but she may really be scared that if she admits it, something will go wrong and she will lose you...maybe even as a friend. maybe if you don't mention other girls to her it would help...only talk about her and as if she is the only one....hopefully that will make her feel more secure about a real relationship....good luck....no one ever said love is easy......
you had me feeling all sad for you right up til the phrase 'c**k tease' you are obviously quite a frustrated guy over this and no woman likes to be called that unless in a saucy moment with her beloved...its not nice...





i think she sounds quite confused and to be honest you can love someone and wish that you could be together on another level but it just doesnt kick in physically for you so ts no good but it doesnt stop the emotonal feelings...i think your best option would be to sit her down without pressuring her and just tell her that you like her but she has said that she isnt interested in that kind of relationship and you respect that but if thats the case then you would like her to accept that you do have needs and wishes of your own and that she has to allow you the space and respect of still being you friend if you see other women ...if she doesnt want to talk write her a letter and give it to her saying that you know he doesnt like to talk so would she read the letter and come back to you to talk or give you a letter back in response...hope this helps but make sure you keep that frustration under wraps...its not attractive...;0)
You already know this... she is very close to you as a friend, AND on a more intimate level.





She does feel jealousy and is hurt by the thought of not having you, but at the same time, is probably scared of what the cost could be if it went wrong. Some people live for YEARS with these untouchable, secret feelings.





Ask her on a date.... tell her you DO like her, treat her as someone very special so that she can see you think of her as more than 'just' a friend. It really is better to take a chance and experience love than to always wonder what might have been. An enduring friendship will survive if there isn't anything else in it.
I think she has really deep feelings for you, but is possibly scared of a sexual relationship with you. You don't say how old you both are. If you carry on the same way you are now, it could develop into something deeper when she's ready, but it's a risk...you could be wasting your time.
This is a relationship already. At least for you. It's OK, after all you do get to socialize, but don't expect anything more.
hi. i dont know why you got thumbs down. anyway she sounds scared of ruining anything you have got as friends and when you are in a relationship it goes much further and she may be frightened it could turn sour halfway down the line and losing your friendship and love altogether so she sounds confused about what she wants from you and ive no doubt this girl is crazy for you she just dont know what to do about it thats why she changes the topic. my advice tell her you know shes tryin to change the subject but tell her life is too short and if you dont give it a go then you will always be the buts if's and maybes.
You need to just be honest with eachother, it appears that there is a lot of dodging the real situation here and a lot of avoiding the truth. Just tell her how you feel, if she doesn't want to admit to anything, then she is playing games with you and isn't worth it. It's going to take one of you to put a stop to that and unfortunately - it looks like it's going to be you.
I think she likes you but never want to be your girlfriend. She likes you for sure -- she wants you to be with her but doesn't want a relationship with you. Quite confusing huh?! If you want to be her ''formal'; boyfriend and in a serious relationship with her, I suggest you to speak to her. It's better if -she is my girlfriend or she isn't - than keep thinking about this.





You really loved this girl huh... =) Wish you the best!
You sure talk a lot LOL! This girl has got you wind up! YOU HAVE TO GET A GRIP! She is playing you from both ends! as for you don't get this other girl you dating hurt beacuse you have feelings for your friend i think you need to be by yourself! I think ya need to be serious for once if not get some space!
I know this is easy for me to say, but why cant you just ask her out on a date. Tell her how you feel about her. Maybe she feels the saame as you but is too scared to tell you in case you dont feel anything but friendship for her.





This is a very difficult situation but unless you tell her how you feel you will not be able to move on with your life , if she genuinely doesnt want you as her boyfriend..





Good luck and I hope it all works out the way you want it too.
shame... i think that she likes you but somehow i think that she may need some convincing from your side. i think you have a chance here otherwise here's no point in beating yourself over for someone who doesn't want to give themselves to you.
yeah what she said,she`s mad for you..and won't accept it..try to hit on her ...
It sounds to me that you have been manupilated by a woman who doesn't find you sexually appealing and cannot see herself with you but yet she wants you single just in case. Never ever waste time on someone who will not make it obvious that she wants to be *more* than friends. Let her go, experience your life and if she gets jealous about it she isn't worth keeping as a friend. Friends don't do that to one another.
She's mad for you but for some reason won't admit it !!! Maybe she's scared it'll all end in tears !!!
sounds to me like she does really have very deep feelings for you, but wont admit it for whatever reason. She may be scared of losing you if it all goes wrong. Bear with it and i'm sure in time you'll get together. Dont mention other girls to her as it only makes her jealous.
She sounds like she really likes you a lot and in a romantic way ..............but she also seems to have a barrier up.........has she been hurt before in another relationship? Have patience and perhaps she may surprise you and drop the barrier. I hope so for your sake because you sound like you are very fond of her.
Sounds like she enjoys hanging around with you, until someone else comes along. You should get on with your life, you have given her the opportunity and she doesnt want a relationship, so move on, if you are meant to be together you will.
Okay, so I'm not a girl....





It sounds to me that she cares for you deeply - as a friend. Jealousy happens, even in a platonic relationship; she may be worried that you won't want to see her any more if you start seeing someone else.





You obviously want to be more than friends. Ask her. If she says no, then you still have a very good friend and at least you know where you stand.
I think she is having feeling for you but due to some very strong personal reason she is not admitting it......Acc to me...u should just make her feel more comfortable with ur friendship so dta she vomit out all going inside her and yell her love for u......!
She might be afraid to admit her feelings or to take the step that will lead to a committment. You did say she hasn't had a boyfriend before so maybe she's unsure and afraid of what will happen.





You've tried talking to her and it obviously hasnt worked. I would say try to persuade her by other means i.e. show her what a great boyfriend you would make without actually mentioning the subject again, so buy her flowers etc. Hopefully she will soon admit her true feelings.
this girl obviously feels a great deal for u. but it is obviously scared of ruining the bond and friendship the two of you have built up. she just needs lots of time to realise if ya want something in life there are usually risks. if you can reassure this girl that you think the world of her and that no matter what you will always be friends and you will always be there for her then given time she will realise you are worth the risk, as you have waited patiently untill she is ready to move forward. hope all goes well mate.
She is totally, utterly besotted with you but for some reason cannot admit it! Maybe something bad has happened to her in her childhood that makes her unable to admit her feelings - or maybe someone she really trusted/loved in the past left her without any explanation! Its a tuff one and i really really wish you the best of luck! You both deserve to be happy TOGETHER!!!!! Goodluck xxx
You are a good friend, if you had a relationship and it didn't work, then she has lost this good friend too. She doesn't want to risk that, so if you get too close she backs off, although she probably loves you, she would rather have you as a friend for ever or not


at all.





Elaine