-we have a 8 month old daughter and he constantly bangs on about how its only doing washing, only cooking, only cleaning and not rocket science.
-i always put them both 1st and have them both fed and ensure they are both happy before i even consider myself! whish i like doing but its not appreciated.
-he lies constantly, keeps saying he will give up smoking, then saying he didnt promise.
-he smokes cannibus at work then comes home stoned which means that one hr he has with our daughter before her bedtime he is stoned.
- he constantly says he only promises things when i go on and only says it to make me happy!!
-he never makes an effort with clothes he wears or the way he looks.
-his breath and clothes smell because of smoking!!
-no sex life, there never was before our baby and i dont find him attractive
-he calls me names when i moan about things
-lazy attitude and never offers to help even on his days off
-no support when i first had baby, didnt even buy me flowers when i had her or say well done!!!!!
_ i found breastfeeding tough but did do it and still do and he has never supported me and admitted his gelously that he couldnt feed her.
-i put on 4.5 stone and have lost 3 stone of it and has never complemented me on it.
-he said that i have alienated everyone and that im contackerous and moody and eveyone will think so.
- when i have been depressed saying that i will put our babys life at risk, and that i couldnt be depressed and has never supported me.
so tonight i said that if he couldnt stop smoking pot them he needs to leave and he said he would choose pot as it didnt affect me, therefore he has chosen X1/2 joints a day over a 13 year relationship with a child.
i do love him but with all the above dont think that i do in the right way is it habbit???
please advice welcome of any sorts thanks xxxxxxRelationship over// HES JUST WALKED OUT!!! ADVICE NEEDED!!?
Honey cut your losses. You give everything and he gives nothing. Before you know it he'll be drinking and doing worse. He chose drugs over his daughter.Relationship over// HES JUST WALKED OUT!!! ADVICE NEEDED!!?
if you have to ask it here then i think you already know the answer you said yourself you think you love him but not in the right way so you answered your own question
oh oh oh pick me!! pick me!! pick me!!!!!
DUMP HIM he'll will only make your life worse.. theres better men out there than him. u deserve better
Fiance? For 13 years? That in itself should tell you he is not serious! Dump him and move on.
you did the right thing but make him pay for the baby if he wasnt responsible then he will be
please tell me you locked the door behind him. if not stop reading this and do it now. i will wait!!!!!!
blah blah blah, hes this,hes that, ever think maybe your part of the problem
how old are you??
never try to come between a man and his bag of weed
hey girl sounds like you need to look after your self. you sound tired. you need to find some help is there any family or friend that can help you catch up with house work and get some rest.
let him go, by the sounds of it you will do better without him because you wont have to do his washing and cleaning and feeding. is it not enough to have one baby with out having another with a bad habit.
i know you may love him, but your love for your baby and yourself will have to be stronger.
you need to be strong for your self and for your beautiful child.
you go girl stay strong you have made the first and hardest step.
Good for you for making a stand. If you had let this carry on, you would have ended up resenting and hating him with no chance of a reconciliation. At least now he may have a chance to go away and assess his lifestyle and change for the better for himself, for your relationship and his child. This may just be the wake up call he needed. If he doesn't want to change then you may have to go through the pain now,,but in the long run you will end up better. Good luck xx
this is the most funny case i ever see. lady, u don't need advice. try to think. ur husband everyday working is very very exhausting. try to understand. your emotion give u a wrong a judgement. man smoking is not wrong, and what u write is all not important. you don't understand what is a relationship. go back to school study!
You don't need him-there's truthful/drug-free/smoke-free men out there, that's messed up if he's doing drugs around the baby-cause your child will turn into a ';druggie';-If he's treating you like crap, he's worthless, dump him-(all you can do is separate, call off the marriage, %26amp; ';just be friends'; unless he changes his bad lifestyle then get together again)-until then but find another man who will treat you %26amp; your child the best to the max. Good Luck.
A lot of your problems sound like the kind of things which regularly crop up in a very long relationship. Once you've been with someone a while you start to notice their bad habits a lot more which perhaps in the past you would have just let go.
First of all I dint think there is any excuse for having drugs around a child. It's very irresponsible of him
As for the things like not supporting you in breastfeeding, not buying you flowers when you had you baby and suchlike, it sounds as though he is taking you for granted. I know this feeling well as my partner didn't do anything for me when our son was born and in fact was telling me to stop sleeping so much and get on with the house work when I'd been home less than 12 hours! However I knew his was over the moon by his reaction to our son.
What I'm trying to say is that 13 years is a lot to give up on, especially now that there is a child involved. Some things you do you have to let go in order to keep a relationship going. You learn to pick your battles.
Decide what you feel most strongly about and how much you want this relationship to last. Whether you are just together out of habit is something only you can really know.
Good luck. x
sounds like a total loser. Good for you if you ditch him. ANy life on your own terms is better than a life with a millstone of a husband. As a mother of two with a husband who is often away (with work, he's fortunately a good dad) I found that if you ever want anything done you have to do it yourself. a. it gets done, b. it gets done to your spec, c. it's a watse of time and energy nagging. Get rid of him! You CAN do it alone!
You can not make anyone quit smoking. It's something they have to want to do. You stayed with him all these years as a smoker, it shouldn't be such a deal breaker now. I assume you also knew he smoked pot while you chose to stay with him all these years. Same deal, you can not make him quit.
As for the rest, sounds like he has no idea how much work a little one can be. Or he knows exactly how much work it is and just doesn't care that you have to do it all yourself. The not supporting you and calling you names just makes him sound ungrateful and spiteful. Because of my job, I may not always have the time to be able to help my wife as much as I like, but I do help when I can. I have never called her names, or put her down about her moods (and the three years she went through menopause there were definitely moods), if I had I don't know that I'd still be married.
If you think your depression may be putting your child at risk, you need to talk to your doctor. Sounds like you may be suffering from post partum depression. If that is the case do not try to get through it alone. If you aren't getting support at home then it is even more important that you talk to your doctor about what other support is available to you.
Well, I wouldn't have him in a gift but there you go. You may well love him but you seriously need to ask yourself what you actually get out of that relationship - the way I read it, he is getting plenty and you get nothing - I don't think you will actually have more to do when he is gone - you may find the work load decreases, the stress decreases and you become a happier individual!
Think about your children and what kind of role model he is...that should answer your questions...
he obv take syou for granted,,there to cook,clean and look after him,many women do this,have a bit of confidence in yourself,,start going out a bit more,meet other folks instead of being stuck at home,and see then how he likes it,,good luck
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