Addictions and relationships- is this you? if so please help me. i need some advice badly. xx?

been with my bf nearly 2 years and we live together.





everything is good, our relationship is passionate and the most intense love i have ever known.





there is one issue we have and that is addiction.





he has an addiction and at times this rears its ugly head. i love this man with all my heart and want to share my future with him.





but at the back of my mind i keep thinking- how can we ever have good money if addiction is about. im not saying what the addiction is- but it makes me feel anxious sometimes when it happens and i find myself feeling all kinds of emotions- anger, saddness, love and a feeling like i want to look after him





- i had eatting disorders for years so part of me can see myself in him.





the addiction comes, takes over for a short time and then goes. but each time im left abit stressed out because i dont know what to do.





i love him so much and he loves me. my head has been telling me to go now and save myself anymore upset.





but my heart says stay, help him or find a way through the bad times.





today i feel a little bit distant from my home, as though i am mentally preparing myself to leave.





but i dont want too!! can you give me any advice?





do you live with addiction? how do you live with it? can it work?





can i learn to live with it if it?Addictions and relationships- is this you? if so please help me. i need some advice badly. xx?
Ok this might be long but here it goes. You understand addiction and you beat it. You have tried to help him by staying in this relationship. He has not responded. He needs a change in life to realize where the problem is. Try leaving for a bit and see if he will respond. That may be the best thing for him. I understand you love him but right now you are the stronger one and you need to take control of your life and see if he follows. Lead by example. If it was ment to be he will come back ready and willing. If not you will now begin a new life clean. Hope this helps and let me know where things stand.Addictions and relationships- is this you? if so please help me. i need some advice badly. xx?
help him


if he wants help --a lot of people are in denial


spiritual healing and reiki can help with this but make sure before he goes to them he cleanses himself


and is doing some kinfd of volunary work


a concept called karma and this seems to be the only thing stopping us from achieving , health wealth and happiness One of the most powerful allies to any person is to know about karma therapy for if you understand this you can even





Avoid getting health or wealth or happiness problems





Or if you currently have problems in those areas Give you the most effective tool, which I have come across to help you alleviate them.





This is the tool The value of givingPutting something or some service into society is one of the most transforming tools with which we all benefit . The value of it is much higher than we can possibly know and it should be included as part of everyone鈥檚 health program. The giver may ask how will helping others help my health and me! That is a very good question, which is very worthy of a serious amount of thought. This touches on the concept which is called karma .





For if one truly wants to live with the great allies of Health, wealth, happiness, Love and all those effects which one values one should really understand this concept. It is the only thing, which explains the apparent randomness of the effects, which come upon people.





Effects are all aspects of health, Wealth, Richness, [note these two are separate] Happiness etc.What is karma? Put simply it is the law of cause and effect. Or put as another way as you sow so shall you reap, or what goes around comes around. What do we mean by sowing? Simply every action or deed you do causes an effect and every thought causes an effect.





So if you have sown good deeds as in helping others, being of service, giving love and Kindness for lengthy periods of time you can expect to reap those seeds. Alternatively if we have sown other deeds and thoughts of a hurtful nature we can expect problems of one nature or another to beset us. Edgar Cayce frequently mentioned in treating disease that we were working against karma and frequently told people that they would get well faster by helping others.





Ah you may say why is it that babies are sometimes born with so many impediments; they have not sown wrongful acts.Yes they have not in this lifetime but what about their previous lives as in reincarnation. You may not wish to go into this subject at this time but there are millions of references to it, some in the bible and a lot of eastern religions, some people can actually remember their past lives.





There is now even past life regression therapy used in hypnosis to treat phobias, which are not connected with this lifetime.


now listen to this next concept really carefully


If we are unwell and by implication therefore suffering from past seeds sown it follows therefore one of the fastest ways to get well is to incorporate into your treatment plan service or giving to somebody as often as you can .





Ask for opportunities to be of service .I have proved this concept on a daily basis and feel that this concept is so important in all types of healing and to achieve other effects like having friends ,enriching experiences, money and other effect which we all need.





Just a few examples of how we can be of service 鈥揼iving Sharing our being, our wealth, sending our thoughts, giving to charity, sharing a joke, uplifting someone, giving listening time, giving healing, giving labour, giving love, giving entertainment, giving food, giving information and a million more ways.


Edgar cayce gave many thousands of examples of karma at work ,he even told one person who asked to be healed that to cure him of this thing would be to no avail as another would surely come .





As you can see from this statement the man has got to work it off ,this apply to us all and its not just health either that this applies to .Virtually every effect you can name .


All is seen ,all is heard, all is felt.





The wise among you will take the attitude of discovering the areas of service you have to make amends on before effects of ill health reach you whether it be cancer, Parkinson鈥檚 blindness or what have you.





So I strongly advise that you engage in some kind of voluntary work and I believe that virtually everyone should be engaged in some kind of healing practice for others preferably on a daily basis.





how to discover this?Well I suggest you pray to be shown or ask the universe to reveal it to you. reveal the areas which are most suited to serviceJust going along in your life and living for self and not bothering until problems come can be very painful.





It is almost like asking for trouble to come ,.all our healing yours mine is linked right alongside our efforts and contribution to others.in direct proportion to the help we give others ie your healing comes with helping others acheive theirs so if people are doing very lit
In a word Nope. You are heading for a life of misery. I have a couple of birds on the go and sex with both of them is amazing but I don't confuse it with love. It feels like it but it's not. I don't suppose that you will blow him out for a second, Women always let there heart rule there mind but remember what I say. If you can afford to waste a few years then it's up to you.
This sounds exactly like my relationship. My bf has an addiction too and sometimes it gets very hard to handle.





I love him so much too and I am constantly in turmoil about whether I should keep going or what I should do about it.





I am thinking of going to see an addiction counsellor, not for me but because I am with an addict and they may have advice for partners of addicts. Maybe try that?