Can internet relationships turn out to be fruitful?need advice on my story?

Hi everyone...I would like to share my story with you, anyone who reads it please leave any comments or advice.


I am 20 yrs old and came across a guy who is 6 yrs elder to me in one of the chatrooms, i don鈥檛 visit chat rooms often and as I believe u never know who is on the other side talking to u, I never made any real friends...it was just that I came across him and we started talking online...had a chat on various topic but only decent chat. on questioning about if he has been in a relationship before, he told me he has been in a serious relationship with 4 girls but never cheated on them... and a couple of others just for fun and time pass coz he felt better to have a girl in his life at that age, whereas me I haven鈥檛 been into any relation in the past. He told me he has always been a good-hearted person for people who are close to him.


Now he said wants to settle down and it鈥檚 been 2 years he has not been into any relation. He warned me he had a bad past in life...has been into many fights when he was young and messed around with a lot of girls. Now he is 27 and on the road to being a good man...we came to know each other more by talking online every day, he lives in uk and I live in the middle east...quite far from each other, but because he always talked nice to me..We became good friends.


We exchanged phone numbers and we text each other even now everyday and talk online. I didn鈥檛 really ever have a boyfriend but I have a couple of friends that I go out with. My family is conservative and so that is one reason I dint really fall for someone.


And now with this guy we have become quite good friends, and he said he likes me and is looking forward for being more than friends with me....I like him too as a friend, but I鈥檓 not sure how serious he is...though he says he is and he wants to come down to middle east to meet me ,so when we see each other ,that鈥檚 when we agreed to make a decision if we want to accept each other and take it to our families and get married. It鈥檚 been only a month we have been talking now, but he plans to visit me soon in the next few months after his exams


he feels I鈥檓 the right woman for him coz I understand him well because he says I m a good friend to him even though he told me about how bad he has been in the past...he left the decision to me to accept him or reject him after knowing his past.


I feel that everyone makes mistakes in life. He promises he will be with me with all his heart and will always be loyal and a very loving hubbie and I agreed that I will not let his past affect our present, so is something has to happen between us...it eventually WILL. So I am looking forward to see him too and if I like him I hope we get married.


..We have only seen each other鈥檚 pictures and we are both okay with how we look...I still he is not because of the past relations he has been with, I feel he is just playing around but he said he never promised any of his ex marriage and that鈥檚 y he never commit himself to anyone. And then I feel there is no harm in giving this relation a try as I鈥檓 single and so is he.


He does seem to be very serious about meeting up and getting married and promises to tell me all about his family and other things I want to know when we meet face to face. We sometimes even talk about future as to how we would treat each other when we get married, how many kids we will have, whether he would give me a diamond ring, my dress on the wedding day...but we always joke around when we have such talks coz I believe future is uncertain and whatever we plan, it doesn鈥檛 really happen that way..


I really like him for the way he talks coz he says he has a really good heart for the people he has really loved, and says he never cheated on any of his ex,..I like him when he says he would keep me really happy and love me unconditionally.


I feel he has a good heart too; he cannot change his past as he cannot turn the clock he says...so I just want to leave his past and hoping for us to start a new relation. We are only waiting for the day we meet...maybe after 3 months...


Should i take this guy seriously ?Can internet relationships turn out to be fruitful?need advice on my story?
first a word of caution, dont base your future on a guy that you havent met personally.





there are a lot of traits that people hide from others and it can cause problems later on. trust me, been there done that. i got married to a guy i met on the internet and within two months he took off and then applied for a divorce. i am still fighting that case. my husband too was from a different country and didnt have too much time to stay where i was and we hardly met and got married. so be careful. dont rush things.





be very, very careful what you do.





on the other hand, he may be a great guy, so dont just dump him because you met him online and dont trust him.





meet up with him, take a lot of time to know him personally. meet him often, go and meet his family, his friends etc. the first time you meet him make sure you meet him at some place that is full of people so that you are safe.





spend at least 6-8 months getting to know him before you decided to get married.





Good luck.





i hope you will be happy what ever you choose to do.





God bless.Can internet relationships turn out to be fruitful?need advice on my story?
I can tell you from experience that it worked out for me. I met my current wife in a chat room 12 years ago. At first all we did was chat in the chatroom, but after about 6 months, we progressed to talking on the phone. I remember a lot of big phone bills because we lived about 200 miles apart, %26amp; would talk for hours. We took it really nice %26amp; slow and finally met in person after about a year. Everything went really well for us, due to the fact that we had already become friends %26amp; knew a lot about one another by this time. On April 15, 1999, I married my best friend and not a day has passed that I regret this, as for me, I have never been happier. We do everything together from cruises, watching the stars thru our telescope, to the housekeeping, and cooking. I can hardly remember my prior life without her. So for me, I guess I am the lucky one %26amp; everything worked out like a dream. My advise to you, take it slow, become good friends, then see where this relationship can go. If you ever have a question that I may help you with, just email me. chastoo1956@yahoo.com I hope that things work out as well for you as they have for me.