I'm in a three year relationship. And i need some advice. I want to know your opinion. Please help me!?

Here's a little background on my relationship.





I've been in a relationship with this kid tom. Tom and I's relationship was full of lust. But he started to gain weight and our relationship died down. I don't really care about looks, because i still love him. I am not sure i am still ';in'; love with him. For the past year, as i said our relationship worsened. We stopped being kinda of sexual, sometimes we are. There have been many times when i have been confronted about him cheating on me but only and only by my mom. I have caught my mom lying multiple times about this so i have never actually believed her because tom always said no.





We would always hang out at my house and we did that for pretty much a year and a half. Since this summer we've been at his house. I have gotten comfortable around his family. His brother Joe is nice and funny, cocky too. Now that i am comfortable around his family i talk to them. Joe and i talk often, pretty much whenever i go over there. I kinda of have a crush on him. I know it's wrong but i cant help liking someone. Even though it's no excuse Tom has been rude and makes lots of mean comments about my parents divorce, my family, and my looks. Anyways when i'm over his house Joe makes fun of me so much. But in a playful way. He picks on how much i eat, because im petite. He says im small and all that other stuff. He is very flirtatious with me. All of his friends who come over notice how he is with me. One of them even said wow joe whats up with you today. and he replied and said i'm always like this to her.





Another thing about joe is he is very sweet to me. He watches out for me. One time Tom threatened to hit me sarcastically adn joe was walking out of the house and he said ohhh yeahhh? like he'd protect me. i smiled haha. Another time joe and tom asked me to drive in tom's car alone to go to the store to buy scratch tickets and doritos. So i drove to sunoco down the street and i was suppose to buy 12 scratch tickets. I ended up buying them but The guy behind the counter ripped me off. He made me pay for all of the tickets when i won twelve dollars. Joe gave me ten dollars to pay for the doritos and all i had left was a dollar. I was really upset and i felt wicked bad because i wasted all his money. When i arrive back at his house i couldnt shut the car off it was in anti lock. I went in and told joe and tom what happened. Tom was wicked mad at me and was like wow you really cant do anything right.? my eyes started to tear up. and Joe was like jesus ******* christ tom ill just go ******* do it. its not a big deal. I asked Tom to let me use his phone to get a ride home because i was really upset. But he refused. I heard Joe open the door to come back inside so i walked in the bathroom so he didn't see me with tears in my eyes. I was wiping my eyes in the bathroom and i saw joe walking in. he put his arms out and hugged me. he said its ok and not to cry. i said im not crying he's just mean and i decided to walk out because if tom saw us he'd be mad and i didn't want to start anything. As we sat down to eat joe whispered to me and was like it'd help to put the car in park. that's why it was in anti lock. so i felt like an idiot even more hahaha. Joe told me not to worry about the money it's not a big deal at all.





Another time was when we were in stop n shop and tom decided to pull out the truck carriage. and joe was like im hopping in that and i looked at him and he put his arm around me and was like don't worry you can sit in it too. it was sweet





see he's very sweet to me. unlike my boyfriend. i dont know, my relationship with tom is fading. and i have a crush on his brother. i really cant help it i even tried forgetting about him but those feelings just keep coming back.





from what i told you do you think joe feels the same or do you think he just picks on me a lot for fun? i wanted to know what i should do. i know how bad it is to like my boyfriends brother but honestly i cant help it. and i doubt id ever say yes to go out with him either. it's just the feelings are there. Give me advice pleaseee!!!!!!I'm in a three year relationship. And i need some advice. I want to know your opinion. Please help me!?
DANG GIRL! If i was you i would talk to joe first and see if he could handle going out with you without damaging him relationship with his brother.





sooo, you should tell tom that he is being a jerk and hurting your feelings. give him one more chance if you want but i wouldnt.








GO FOR JOE!!!!!! =] =]