My 4 year relationship is in trouble! Help/Advice?

okay ive been with my fiance for 4 years in the beginning things where perfect but now all we do is fight. i feel like im the only one trying to make things work.sometimes i just want to scream. when i try to talk to him about he automatically gets on the defense and is ready to fight. i love him but i cant live like this forever. since i have been with him i haven't been with another man and as far as i know he has been faithful to me. im not trying to say that there is no more love between me and him sometimes we do have those moments but that are far and few. is it really worth it








I feel like i dontknow me without him i've been with him since i was 18 and since then i think we have spent maybe a total of 10 days apart.im lost and dont know what to do i love him and i have asked if maybe we could live apart for a while but he says if that happend he will never come back. and i we did ever live apart he would go to his moms and then his whole family would know what was going on with us. things have been like this for a long time know and im not sure what i should do im so frustrated





i dont want to make him sound like a bad guy because he is a good manMy 4 year relationship is in trouble! Help/Advice?
Hi Kristina,


Read the last line you wrote: (i don't want to make him sound like a bad guy because he is a good man). You used the words bad and good in the same sentence. Which one is he? Read what you said: (when i try to talk to him about ?he automatically gets on the defense and is ready to fight). Why is he so angry? He has you bullied to the point that you are loving him more than you love yourself cause you are always considering him andhis family and what they will think. Who cares what they will think. Read what you said: (i have asked if maybe we could live apart for a while but


he says if that happend he will never come back). You know you guys need to part and you know that you won't cause you love him so much and you don't want to live without him or the misery you go through. You have to do what's in your


heart to do, but 4 years or 4 days if I had been in a relationship where I was miserable it wouldn't matter. I couldnt be with him. You don't know what other guy or love is out there for you cause you have been in his life for too long. He hasn't been in your life. Tha's why you are miserable and you don't want anyone to know that you have


may be deprived yourself of happiness for the sake of loving this one man. Who really hasn't given as much as he's gotten. If you think a separation could help matters and are afraid of his threat to never come back you will be unhappy for the rest your life. If you will not be threatened by his not returning to the misery he causing you to live in give him his walking papers. Peace of mind means more than what you've got and your are taking all of this from him and you don't even have a wedding ring.My 4 year relationship is in trouble! Help/Advice?
Well I know because I've been in a 4 year relationship and boy it's rough..All I can tell you..if you really love him and he really love you it will work out ..All relationships have there hardships and when ever you plan to get married it's just something you both have to work on..
Maybe ye should go to counselling together because it seems to me that both of you have problems that need to be aired out,
If he is a good guy and you love him then try to work it out. What worries me is when you say you don't know yourself without him. You have been with him for a long time and from a young age. What are you doing for you? You need to tell him that marriage is forever and when your in a relationship there are always going to be ups and downs. You need to know that he is going to be there to work with you not fight with you when things are tough. And that is unwillingness to talk out your issues now, worries you for the future
Its normal in couples to fight, but you say you guys only fight. what causes the argument to start?





This is what you do:


you say you do too much for the relationship, you know what you should do? Do less, and less, and then he will notice that somethings up with you and he will try to fix it up. It usually works, just don't make it seem like you hate him or want to break up. And also dont do those ';the talk';, or ';we need to talk';, those are really scary for us guys. Also try to go on vaction somewhere just you two. Have fun, have some fun in the bed as well.