I have a difficult time maintaining healthy boundaries in my relationships. I am too nice, get walked all over and then when I go from Depressive to Manic, or Manic to Depressive, I say or do things to these people whom have already done something to cross my boundaries and I go off. I end up verbally attacking them and scaring them off. Then when its all said and done I go into a time of grief and guilt. I do not know how to stop this behavior. I have been through years of counseling, am taking my meds, am not suicidal or homicidal just sick and tired of trying to find supportive friends. I am beginning to think that eventually I will drive everyone that I love out of my life, even my family members. Please someone who knows this illness help me out here. I am tired of this.Hello I am seeking some good advice as to how to deal with my relationship problems. I have Bipolar Disorder.?
I too have bipolar disorder, and I find what is helpful for me is to tell everyone that is involved in your life what you will and will not tolerate. Along with taking your meds, and knowing what the warning signs are before you even get to the point of losing it. When the people in your life don't listen or respect the boundries that you set it is time to let them go, because a true friend or lover will understand and try to respect those boundries. Remember you come first, so take your meds, see your therapist if you have one, and set boundries. Good Luck.....Hello I am seeking some good advice as to how to deal with my relationship problems. I have Bipolar Disorder.?
WOW, you sound just like me. The best advice I can give you is to explain to everyone in detail exactly what bipolar is and that you are doing the best you can. Friends and family members tend to run away when they don't understand what you are going through. If they continue to walk over you and cross boundaries then it's best you let them go anyway. Try going to support group for bipolar/mental illness, you'll have fun there and may might new friends.
i have bipolar also and have same problems.i dont have as many mates as before as it is hard to matain friendships.just do the best you can.think before you speak.easy said than done.explain your bipolar to your mates.be more forgiving of yourself.join a support group for bipolar on line or ask gp.we are all in same boat and you are not alone.i know it hrad,i battle every day.good luck.
I have felt the same way many times. I believe that with your rollercoaster behaviors you probably will run everyone away, thats why when your feeling depressed and crummy either hide out for awhile and be alone or go out with friends and fake it. It may sound dumb but I fake my way through all my depressed times...ppl dont tend to notice my manic episodes lol. Its probably not the healthiest way to deal, but faking it will keep your psycho attitude to urself and prevent ppl from knowing how crazy you really are lol.
hey hang in there, im bipolar with psychosis :) i know how horrible it can feel to get irritable on everyone and hurt them, believe me. im tired of it too but keep taking your meds dont stop or it will make your illness alot worse with the withdrawl symptoms. try to explain to your family about your illness, and if u want u can check yourself into a psych facility and they teach you very good coping skills nad ways to come together with your family. hang in there and im here for you if u ever need the support
i came off my meds and the phase started again and a week later i tried killing myself. i got sent to the psych ward after the e.r. and i learned so many things to help me out and got better medications. my family kinda understands how i am now and that im not just a heartless person cuz im very caring and compassionate to everyone but sometimes i can get very pissed off and show it very clearly
im sure your family will love you always and forever, your there buddy, and you will make plenty of friends, like right now lol :) just know im here for you and you are not the only one out there. hopefully there will be a cure to end this all without having to take pills the rest of your life.
stay safe
gabe
Are you taking mood stabilisers, such as lithium, Lamictal, or Depakote? And are you still receiving ongoing support from your counsellor?
See bipolar disorder, at ezy build, below, in section 10, and take the quiz, if unsure, and if the results are positive, ensure you get an expert diagnosis from a mental health professional, not doctors, who are much better dealing with physical ailments, and don't diagnose complex disorders like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and borderline personality disorder often enough to develop any real expertise.
Bipolar disorder usually involves major mood swings, which occur without apparent cause, and often over many months, or a matter of years, rather than days, as with most people (unless rapid cycling). I'd take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements daily, replacing 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements in the winter months, (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve.
If you decide to use allopathy, (modern Western medicine) I recommend trying Lithium Carbonate, or Lithium Citrate. (regular tests are necessary, for these) before trying the other mood stabilisers, but if you aren't good at taking medications regularly, drinking adequate water, and keeping up your salt intake, something else, such as Lamictal, or Depakote, may suit you better. Check out ';lithium'; at http://www.drugs.com/, and http://crazymeds.us/ and always research medications first, (read, and keep the labels/information sheets) so you will be aware of the risks, and on the lookout for side effects. (Personally, if I wasn't bipolar type 1, and didn't experience hallucinations, or serious delusional states, I know I'd first try the orthomolecular, and Omega 3 fish oil supplements, vitamins, minerals; a herbal remedy, and a mostly raw food diet, for several months. Note: St. John's wort, and also antidepressants, may cause mania, or hypomania, in people with bipolar disorder. I'd aso eat in accordance with my ';nutritional type';. Enter that term in the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com/
If not considerably improved, after a maximum of 6 months trial period, consult your primary mental health care provider: you may be one of those who need medications to prevent this serious disorder from worsening. If you have bipolar type 1, an antipsychotic medication may also be needed. Everyone should take the Omega 3 supplements, or preferably ';krill oil'; for its other health benefits: use the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com/ . Some people refuse medication, using supplements, and a selective, mostly raw food diet (I do not recommended trying this, if bipolar 1, unless you aren't troubled by hallucinations, or delusional states).
Maintain the treatments for the depressive phase, in section 2, at: http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Some topics in section 10 include: treating bipolar disorder with supplements, vitamins, minerals, and herbal remedies (except for St. John's wort, which may cause mania, or hypomania). As with all medications, there are risks, and the possibility of side effects, which is why I inform people of the alternatives, to see if they can cope sufficiently well, without resorting to medications. Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. It is not unknown for those discontinuing medication, and trying the alternative treatments, (which are not quick to work) to lose their jobs, because of unacceptable behavio(u)r, so I'd start 1 week before vacation, and closely monitor the situation, and use medical advice.
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