Imagine, you meet a girl from another state, start talking on the phone and begin to form a close bond. You begin to talk every single night for hours. You like everything about this person. Next, you meet her. It's been 6 months, and when you meet, sparks fly so to speak. You stay in a hotel and have a little fun. You love this girl very much, so does she. Departing sucks, but the thought of meeting again keeps things strong. This goes on for another year,you've been to her town and she's been to yours quite a few times. Then, you go to different colleges, putting you even farther away than before. She starts to get pissed when you put school over her sometimes and start fighting even tho you have never fought much before. Things get worse. School becomes stressful, and you start drifting away. You don't talk for a while, then she calls you drunk telling you she found someone else and they already had sex! What should you do? You still love her very much.I need advice about a long distance relationship.?
What you should do is move on. She was actually sending you some very obvious signs way before she let the hammer fall.I need advice about a long distance relationship.?
You need to ask yourself where is your relationship going?
Because (not to sound completely psychoanalytical or something), despite the fact that you have maintained a relationship, you are focusing on college from what it sounds like. I'm not suggesting to do anything completely radical, but there is going to be a point of no return in your relationship, and whatever decision you will make will determine whether or not you will stay together. I would highly suggest trying to make it work if you still love her, but if you're trying to make something work that might not have meant to be, then just let it go and be happy without a long distance relationship. It will be hard at first, but if you think about it, if she meant what she drunk dialed you about, than maybe it just wasn't something that was meant to be.
go find a local girl and forget about her.
well, id tell he to *beep* off personally... i don't think its working out if its gone to that extent, you could try calling her, talking to her to find out for sure but i think its probably over.. sorry man
I'm sorry, but you really need to think about this one. How strong is a relationship that prompts someone to ';get pissed when you put school over her sometimes'; and then ';she calls you drunk telling you she found someone else and they already had sex!';
She didn't obviously care that your education was important to you, and it was a TEMPORARY thing, where SHE could be PERMANENT. If she saw the big picture, and herself in it, she would have supported your goals. But she didn't.
If she slept with someone else before calling it quits with you properly, she was probably looking around for a bit. He might not have been the first. I'm sorry to say that, but it's most likely true.
If she's meant to be the one, she will be back and none of this will matter, but it SHOULD matter. Trust is hard to get back once it's broken. Only you know if you can trust her after this, and how strong your feelings are.
I wish you the best of luck.
Well, I'm in a LDR too, and we started only 350 miles away... and now we are 2,700 miles away. It's hard.
But really, our relationship is built on communication and trust. School is REALLY tough for me right now too... but we never lost that communication thing [[we still talk on the phone for hours every night]], and that's what I think happened to you guys.
But nonetheless, this is still CHEATING and it is evident that she wants to move on. I know this is painful, and I know it's hard to let go of the person you love.
But really, a LDR cannot happen without lots and lots of trust. And obviously now, that is gone.
This probably isn't what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. You need to break it off, and find someone [[local or not]] who will be empathetic to your school situation, who will communicate with you, and who will be faithful and honest to you unconditionally. Decide that you deserve better.
You should wait til a time when the two of you can (or want to) share the same county. Then if the passion is still there on both sides go for it!
Tell her bye! bye! bye! I also think that more communication would help...You should have calmly communicated with eachother about your disagreements/problems. Never leave the conversation angry or unresolved...;)
That's why I don't like long distance relationships... it is very hard. You guys spend less time together and creates more stress. If I were you, I would just stay friends with her because if it is meant to happen, it will happen. Just let things flow my friend.
Have you ever heard the saying, it is better to be alone and have pride and respect for yourself, then to be with someone not worthy of you? Well let me tell you this sweetie, as sad as this situation she really doesn't have the right priorities in mind. School is the most important aspect right now, girls come and go but what you must understand is that education and a good degree will get you far in life. She seems to me the person that wants to have fun, and lacks the ability to be responsible, if she could easily just get drunk and have sex, this is just the beginning after a year. Think of what she can do as the relationship develops and she realizes this is not what she wants. If i were you, I would be happy that you figured out what type of person she is NOW, before it got majorly serious. If I were you, I would just let her go, and keep your pride. If you really love her, you need to call her and ask her what she wants, when she is sober. If she apologizes and tries to make an effort with you, you could forgive her. However I think that she is the type of people who can't handle distance and who are looking for fun now, and don't think about tomorrow. She must really not be that attached to you, as sad as I am to say this. YOu can do much better, why do you want a girl that will treat you like this? Good luck hun!!
Well my advice is that it's good you love her, but I think that you should get over her because that is a red flag saying that she doesn't have commitment to your relationship. She says she moved on and you should get back at her and get a rebound.
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You can do this, call her and talk to her and apologize even if u didn't do anything wrong. Girls like it when they are right.
Tell her over and over that u love her and ur not over her.
I'm sure she'll get back with you...............
if she had the guts to go and cheat on you,that aint love bro.that jjust aint love.
You shouldn't make yourself crazy obsessing over it. You guys had something very special, but it didn't work out, and I know it's sad, but it's part of life. I would say it's best to move on, focus on school, spend free time with friends, and try to meet some new girls. I know that's hard to do, but time helps everything. Don't wait for her to come to her senses, because unfortunately, the odds are, she won't. You guys might be able to be friends, but that might take some time, so just spend some time enjoying being young and in college.
I would try to break it up with her at least for a little while. You both are in college. You need to go out there, figure out who you really are, concentrate on school and meet/ date other people to make sure you two are meant for each other. It sounds like she is frustrated with the situation and rather A. Really has moved on or B. was just trying to make you jealous. I would break it off for a while. It will give you both time to think if you do want to be together. If you guys are meant to be then it will happen. Good luck!
move on and long distance relationship usually doesnt really work..
well if she is the kind of person that goes off and gets drunk with other guys and if that is the kind of person u want to keep a relationship with then go for it but to me she doent seen like the kind of person you can trust where if she said she is working late she is not cheeting on you so if you like that kind of person go for it if she is the king of person u dont trust then dont talk to her
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Any advice on teaching my kids to have a healthy relationship with food?
Growing up I had A LOT of problems with food. I binged and purged for about 7 consecutive years, from the time I was 15 until I was 22. My relationship with food was so bad growing up. Food was always so comforting to me, because many of my best memories revolved around food, but I also had to watch my figure. My brother had an eating disorder as well, a serious one.
I just don't want my children to have an unhealthy relationship with food. I have decided that food is never going to be a form of reward or punishment.
What are some other ideas?Any advice on teaching my kids to have a healthy relationship with food?
As the child of a bulimarexia I can assure you you will give your children an eating disorder if you try to raise them without professional help. Start with
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rm鈥?/a>
Look under eating disorders ans get help for you and your children now. Or you will mess them up. My mom kept me from knowing what she did so I am not a bulimic (unless you call an overweight obese old man bulimic I keep I don't toss) and I don't hate her because help did not exist when I was young but your children will despise you if you let it happen to them in this day and age when help is available AND THEY SHOULD.Any advice on teaching my kids to have a healthy relationship with food?
Well I suggest showing them the movie Fast Food Nation or Supersize It, and having them read the book Fast Food Nation. It really helps them understand the unhealthyness of some fast food. Always keep healthy snacks around the house and urge them to get healthier things when you go out to eat. It's a really great lifestyle.
Don't buy junk food. Always sit down to eat, even if it's just a snack. Don't make food a reward. Instead, watch a favorite movie or play a game, etc.. Eat healthy stuff like veggies and fruits. Don't snack a lot. Find ways to deal with stress other than eating, such as taking a walk around the block, etc..
Teach your children growing up that junk food does not need to be in their diet. You have control over what your children have for break fest, lunch, and dinner.
well like always eating their vegetables and eating little snacks in between meals so that they're not always hungry.
Never bring up your own problems, believe it or not, parents dumping thier past on their kids laps, can make the kids prepersendend to follow those foosteps.
Make meal time enjoyable, realise kids eat when their hungry and play when their not. Its ok to wrap their meal and let them ask for it later. I cant stress enough having a casual attitude, a family time to chat, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Read kids moods, patterns, so you know if by holding dinner an hour, and the child will have finished watching that movie or reading that book, or building that tower with building blocks will pay off.
Remember that meal time should be very pleasurable, for everyone, not just moms got to get out to the mall for that sale so slam down the meal lets run. Of course that will happen, but dont make it always like that. Be flexible. I wish someone would of told my mom that.
1 - don't use food as a punishment or reward
2 - don't ';make'; your kids finish everything on their plate
3 - learn how to make nutritious, tasty meals (get a cookbook by Jamie Oliver if you need advice - he's one of the best at teaching kids how to eat.
4 - don't go to just food restaurants often - once a every two or three weeks is max.
5 - be interested in what your kids eat and set a good example.
6 - don't keep lots of junk food around and open - learn what ';quick'; food is nutritious - not chip and cookies ice cream but pretzels and yogurt and fruit.
I just don't want my children to have an unhealthy relationship with food. I have decided that food is never going to be a form of reward or punishment.
What are some other ideas?Any advice on teaching my kids to have a healthy relationship with food?
As the child of a bulimarexia I can assure you you will give your children an eating disorder if you try to raise them without professional help. Start with
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rm鈥?/a>
Look under eating disorders ans get help for you and your children now. Or you will mess them up. My mom kept me from knowing what she did so I am not a bulimic (unless you call an overweight obese old man bulimic I keep I don't toss) and I don't hate her because help did not exist when I was young but your children will despise you if you let it happen to them in this day and age when help is available AND THEY SHOULD.Any advice on teaching my kids to have a healthy relationship with food?
Well I suggest showing them the movie Fast Food Nation or Supersize It, and having them read the book Fast Food Nation. It really helps them understand the unhealthyness of some fast food. Always keep healthy snacks around the house and urge them to get healthier things when you go out to eat. It's a really great lifestyle.
Don't buy junk food. Always sit down to eat, even if it's just a snack. Don't make food a reward. Instead, watch a favorite movie or play a game, etc.. Eat healthy stuff like veggies and fruits. Don't snack a lot. Find ways to deal with stress other than eating, such as taking a walk around the block, etc..
Teach your children growing up that junk food does not need to be in their diet. You have control over what your children have for break fest, lunch, and dinner.
well like always eating their vegetables and eating little snacks in between meals so that they're not always hungry.
Never bring up your own problems, believe it or not, parents dumping thier past on their kids laps, can make the kids prepersendend to follow those foosteps.
Make meal time enjoyable, realise kids eat when their hungry and play when their not. Its ok to wrap their meal and let them ask for it later. I cant stress enough having a casual attitude, a family time to chat, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Read kids moods, patterns, so you know if by holding dinner an hour, and the child will have finished watching that movie or reading that book, or building that tower with building blocks will pay off.
Remember that meal time should be very pleasurable, for everyone, not just moms got to get out to the mall for that sale so slam down the meal lets run. Of course that will happen, but dont make it always like that. Be flexible. I wish someone would of told my mom that.
1 - don't use food as a punishment or reward
2 - don't ';make'; your kids finish everything on their plate
3 - learn how to make nutritious, tasty meals (get a cookbook by Jamie Oliver if you need advice - he's one of the best at teaching kids how to eat.
4 - don't go to just food restaurants often - once a every two or three weeks is max.
5 - be interested in what your kids eat and set a good example.
6 - don't keep lots of junk food around and open - learn what ';quick'; food is nutritious - not chip and cookies ice cream but pretzels and yogurt and fruit.
Do you think I could start a website that gives people advice on relationships?
Not only male- female relationships, but family or friend problems? I think I can. Do you think people will visit that site? Also, If you have any questions and need some advice let me know. Email me.Do you think I could start a website that gives people advice on relationships?
Well I believe that you can. I believe that you can do anything you propose in your heart to do. You are responsible for every action and everything you do. If you've got the talent, then use itDo you think I could start a website that gives people advice on relationships?
Hey it's worked for many over the years, why not you? Just know it'll take time and a lot of work to develop a following. Maybe start a Yahoo Group? Best of luck.
I think it already exists......it's called Yahoo Answers.
i think u can and i think that people will visit bc some people need help all day everyday and this website does not provide the best help so i think u should
SURE DO IT I NEED HELP RIGHT NOW DO IT WRITE AN ANN LAUNDERS FOR A NEWSPAPER TO
i think it's a wonderful idea! i'm a writer and think anything like that is great. i'd totally visit. go for it! :) God bless you and take care!
If you are young, then you should make it a site that aims to teenagers. Most adults would only visit your site if they knew you had either passed a psychology degree or had been through the problem yourself.
I think you will do good if its an area you are interested in. As you get older, study in it as well. You should make your site accessible to others and give it a catchy name that people won't forget. Good luck!homemade blackheads
Well I believe that you can. I believe that you can do anything you propose in your heart to do. You are responsible for every action and everything you do. If you've got the talent, then use itDo you think I could start a website that gives people advice on relationships?
Hey it's worked for many over the years, why not you? Just know it'll take time and a lot of work to develop a following. Maybe start a Yahoo Group? Best of luck.
I think it already exists......it's called Yahoo Answers.
i think u can and i think that people will visit bc some people need help all day everyday and this website does not provide the best help so i think u should
SURE DO IT I NEED HELP RIGHT NOW DO IT WRITE AN ANN LAUNDERS FOR A NEWSPAPER TO
i think it's a wonderful idea! i'm a writer and think anything like that is great. i'd totally visit. go for it! :) God bless you and take care!
If you are young, then you should make it a site that aims to teenagers. Most adults would only visit your site if they knew you had either passed a psychology degree or had been through the problem yourself.
I think you will do good if its an area you are interested in. As you get older, study in it as well. You should make your site accessible to others and give it a catchy name that people won't forget. Good luck!
Any advice on how to deal with a long distance relationship?
My current boyfriend and I met online about 3 months ago and have just celebrated our two month anniversary. I'm 16(turning 17 this summer) and he is 22(just turned 22 the 25th). He lives in Colorado and I live in Florida. We talk daily, sometimes multiple times a day, on the phone and online. We both have webcams, so we know we're talking to the right person. We have both made plans on visiting each other but that won't come until next year. I find myself missing him terribly to the point of crying.I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to cope with the distance and basically the separation? Thankyou =]Any advice on how to deal with a long distance relationship?
This is copied from a similiar question and please, ignore the person that said it's wierd.
(((Let me just say that I am still in one and it is hard, especially since there are long point where she cannot get on. I would like to warn you to make sure you can trust the person, like the way I can. I have a good friend who's known her in real life for 5-6 years, so with that factor in place it is perfectly safe. It honestly is up to the people, regardless of the obvious downs an online relationship may pose, it's no different than meeting through phone, letters, etc, etc. It's up to the people involved and whether they do honestly love each other, if you don't love each other enough to stick with the online relationship, then you don't love them enough period, real life included. Yes, it can be hard. Yes, it's usually only text and/or cams, but feelings can still be expressed through machines no matter what non-believers say.
The only solid argument is that it's dangerour, which it is, trust me when I say you'll regret giving your heart out to someone you don't know well enough. This, however, can apply to real life and is thus not the greatest rebuttal against online dating. However, it is a fair and strong warning. If possible, get the person to post a picture of themself with something in the picture to prove they are who they say they are, or better, use webcams to see and talk in real time.
Just know this, that with all long distance relationships, whether through letters, E-Mail or message boards, there is most likely going to be moments where you're apart and alone. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my girl, and from the times my friend got to talk with her she was always melting just about talking about me. You're lucky if you hit the jackpot AND have some way of getting together, I just wish mine wasn't in France but here in the states. Take care and don't give out your heart all tied up in a bow at first sight, take it easy and steady, make sure you know just WHO you're talking to and most importantly, if it IS a good one, don't let go and try your hardest to get hooked up in real life...
The best of luck to you.)))
There is nothing wrong with internet relationships, only the ones where someone is not showing their face and whatnot.
Take care.
Edit: And as the others have said, the fact you're a minor and he's an adult is cause for some concern, take their word on it for your own sake and take your time in the relationship.Any advice on how to deal with a long distance relationship?
Well, that's your destiny. And communication through computers is the only way. Maybe, you'll just stick to same routine everyday. If you really like this guy, just be patient. Wait for the right time, maybe God has done special plans for you two. Goodluck! ^^,
I'm glad that I'm not the only one who dated via-online/phone.
There is a small chance of it working out 'til the end, but the greater probability is that it won't. It's difficult, and I was in situations where either the guy or MYSELF found other significant people in our schools, therefore ending it. Friends with benefits (FWB) doesn't make a difference either.
Also, think of it this way: Wouldn't you rather want to hold hands with a real guy, instead of a computer mouse? I hope that doesn't sound too harsh, but that's my reality.
And another thing: you're 16 and he's 22. Where I'm from, it's illegal. YES. Illegal. I don't know if it's the same in Colorado/Florida, because I don't know their exact age laws..but... be a little cautious, dear...
But there IS a small chance of hope. And I'm impressed. You even got his phone number (which I didn't succeed in)!
Good luck!!
I frown on the age difference but....
Here is a great video that should help:
http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-have鈥?/a>
Your 16 years old and need to be dating people in your own age group and from your own community so that you learn what you want and need in a serious adult relationship. You can't do this online and it's especially dangerous to do this with someone who admits to being 22 but may be a much older and may not have your real interests at heart. I know this isn't what you want to hear and I understand you can't see this 'relationship' ending but for your own safety please be very careful.
First things first, I hate to say it and please don't take offense but he is a bit too old for you. I know you have heard it before, but keep in mind that *grown* men want *grown* things.
Next, there can be no separation if you have never met. Meeting someone online is cool ( that is how I met my man and we have been together for a year now) but exercises plenty of caution in making sure that he is not a player, fake or phony before you shed anymore tears. If you can get at least 50 bucks on a pre-paid Visa, DO A BACKGROUND CHECK!!
Last but not least, the best way to deal with a LDR is what you are doing now!! Phones and online chatting!! It also helps to send Hallmark cards. Also send him pictures of you. I find that handwritten love letter sprayed with perfume are the best. I wish you all luck!!
PS When you meet him, have him come to see YOU!! And make sure that you tell a friend where you are going and with whom (assuming you can't tell your mom or dad!)
How can you cry over someone you've never met...? Weird...
What?! He's 22?! Why can't he get a girl his own age? I'd never date anyone that young at his age. As mature as you might think you are at almost 17, you'd be amazed at how different you will be and think at 22. You should lose him. He's a creep for not dating someone closer to his age. He just wants a young ';honey';. Don't lose any sleep over him.
This is copied from a similiar question and please, ignore the person that said it's wierd.
(((Let me just say that I am still in one and it is hard, especially since there are long point where she cannot get on. I would like to warn you to make sure you can trust the person, like the way I can. I have a good friend who's known her in real life for 5-6 years, so with that factor in place it is perfectly safe. It honestly is up to the people, regardless of the obvious downs an online relationship may pose, it's no different than meeting through phone, letters, etc, etc. It's up to the people involved and whether they do honestly love each other, if you don't love each other enough to stick with the online relationship, then you don't love them enough period, real life included. Yes, it can be hard. Yes, it's usually only text and/or cams, but feelings can still be expressed through machines no matter what non-believers say.
The only solid argument is that it's dangerour, which it is, trust me when I say you'll regret giving your heart out to someone you don't know well enough. This, however, can apply to real life and is thus not the greatest rebuttal against online dating. However, it is a fair and strong warning. If possible, get the person to post a picture of themself with something in the picture to prove they are who they say they are, or better, use webcams to see and talk in real time.
Just know this, that with all long distance relationships, whether through letters, E-Mail or message boards, there is most likely going to be moments where you're apart and alone. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my girl, and from the times my friend got to talk with her she was always melting just about talking about me. You're lucky if you hit the jackpot AND have some way of getting together, I just wish mine wasn't in France but here in the states. Take care and don't give out your heart all tied up in a bow at first sight, take it easy and steady, make sure you know just WHO you're talking to and most importantly, if it IS a good one, don't let go and try your hardest to get hooked up in real life...
The best of luck to you.)))
There is nothing wrong with internet relationships, only the ones where someone is not showing their face and whatnot.
Take care.
Edit: And as the others have said, the fact you're a minor and he's an adult is cause for some concern, take their word on it for your own sake and take your time in the relationship.Any advice on how to deal with a long distance relationship?
Well, that's your destiny. And communication through computers is the only way. Maybe, you'll just stick to same routine everyday. If you really like this guy, just be patient. Wait for the right time, maybe God has done special plans for you two. Goodluck! ^^,
I'm glad that I'm not the only one who dated via-online/phone.
There is a small chance of it working out 'til the end, but the greater probability is that it won't. It's difficult, and I was in situations where either the guy or MYSELF found other significant people in our schools, therefore ending it. Friends with benefits (FWB) doesn't make a difference either.
Also, think of it this way: Wouldn't you rather want to hold hands with a real guy, instead of a computer mouse? I hope that doesn't sound too harsh, but that's my reality.
And another thing: you're 16 and he's 22. Where I'm from, it's illegal. YES. Illegal. I don't know if it's the same in Colorado/Florida, because I don't know their exact age laws..but... be a little cautious, dear...
But there IS a small chance of hope. And I'm impressed. You even got his phone number (which I didn't succeed in)!
Good luck!!
I frown on the age difference but....
Here is a great video that should help:
http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-have鈥?/a>
Your 16 years old and need to be dating people in your own age group and from your own community so that you learn what you want and need in a serious adult relationship. You can't do this online and it's especially dangerous to do this with someone who admits to being 22 but may be a much older and may not have your real interests at heart. I know this isn't what you want to hear and I understand you can't see this 'relationship' ending but for your own safety please be very careful.
First things first, I hate to say it and please don't take offense but he is a bit too old for you. I know you have heard it before, but keep in mind that *grown* men want *grown* things.
Next, there can be no separation if you have never met. Meeting someone online is cool ( that is how I met my man and we have been together for a year now) but exercises plenty of caution in making sure that he is not a player, fake or phony before you shed anymore tears. If you can get at least 50 bucks on a pre-paid Visa, DO A BACKGROUND CHECK!!
Last but not least, the best way to deal with a LDR is what you are doing now!! Phones and online chatting!! It also helps to send Hallmark cards. Also send him pictures of you. I find that handwritten love letter sprayed with perfume are the best. I wish you all luck!!
PS When you meet him, have him come to see YOU!! And make sure that you tell a friend where you are going and with whom (assuming you can't tell your mom or dad!)
How can you cry over someone you've never met...? Weird...
What?! He's 22?! Why can't he get a girl his own age? I'd never date anyone that young at his age. As mature as you might think you are at almost 17, you'd be amazed at how different you will be and think at 22. You should lose him. He's a creep for not dating someone closer to his age. He just wants a young ';honey';. Don't lose any sleep over him.
Some advice please on this i been in a abusive relationship for a long time i left my ex husband now for the ?
third time and have stayed out/.got my own place but the problem is he told everyone his family and my grown children that i ran off and had an affair with the family friend that helped me and supported me so much and now my husband wants us to work it out our marriage but i am so very scared that he has not changed at all he had a phyotic breakdown due to major depression.I am now so very lost in ways i cant explain i was only 15 when i met and married at 18years old i never knew i was in a abusive relationship.He has all ways told me whats right and whats wrong and he all ways tell me not to mix with certain people and all ways accused me of affairs and call me nasty names each time we fight i got hyperthyroidism later in my marriage and lost a lot of weight now i left for the third time and i am lost in what to do i go to counselling all the time but being xmas its hard to talk to her please any answers to this i would love to hear and now i developed feelings for this younger man that has giving me support he is a wonderful person i am lost Help ppSome advice please on this i been in a abusive relationship for a long time i left my ex husband now for the ?
This is your husbands attempt for CONTROL again!!!! Who cares what he says to who????? GET OUT GIRL!!!!! For your safety, your sanity and protection, DO NOT GO BACK!!!! There are women shelters----you must go!!! They will help you with counselling, with finances, with options!!!! You are not alone!!!!! GO NOW!!! PHONESome advice please on this i been in a abusive relationship for a long time i left my ex husband now for the ?
I think your intuition is right that he is unlikely to change. You tried three times to make it work. If it's still not working after all these years, it's not going to work.
Take it slow with the nice young man. It sounds like you're still getting your head together and not quite ready for a new relationship.
You left 3 times and he didn't change. TRUST ME HE HAS NOT CHANGED!!! He don't have to because you keep taking him back. Send him on his psychotic way before you have a psychotic breakdown. He had his MANY CHANCES and he blew it. You have loved him for years and gotten nothing in return. It's time for you to love your self for a change. Stick with the guy that has supported you don't do him wrong. He has been there for you like your husband should have been. Do not go back to him. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!! Good luck to you.
YOU NEED TO CALL A PLACE FOR ABUSED WOMEN AND CHILDREN IN YOUR AREA AND GET HELP! They have classes/counsling/home arrangements etc to help you get out and stay out- as well as to learn the patterns/cycles and warning signs of abuse so that you never end up in another abusive relationship again.
Please- go get help!
**edit: you need to get councling from someone who deals with abuse- not just any Joe Shmoe Counseler - they won't help and may end up harming you!
i.e. my father was abusive (emotionally, financially, sexually etc towards my mother) and they went to a counceler who told my mom that all of their problems where because my mom didn't spend enough time with my dad. Do you know how instantly worse the abuse got? That councler who knew nothing about abusive relationships totally put my father on an even bigger control/power trip than he already was on- and my poor mom was left to suffer the consequences.
This is your husbands attempt for CONTROL again!!!! Who cares what he says to who????? GET OUT GIRL!!!!! For your safety, your sanity and protection, DO NOT GO BACK!!!! There are women shelters----you must go!!! They will help you with counselling, with finances, with options!!!! You are not alone!!!!! GO NOW!!! PHONESome advice please on this i been in a abusive relationship for a long time i left my ex husband now for the ?
I think your intuition is right that he is unlikely to change. You tried three times to make it work. If it's still not working after all these years, it's not going to work.
Take it slow with the nice young man. It sounds like you're still getting your head together and not quite ready for a new relationship.
You left 3 times and he didn't change. TRUST ME HE HAS NOT CHANGED!!! He don't have to because you keep taking him back. Send him on his psychotic way before you have a psychotic breakdown. He had his MANY CHANCES and he blew it. You have loved him for years and gotten nothing in return. It's time for you to love your self for a change. Stick with the guy that has supported you don't do him wrong. He has been there for you like your husband should have been. Do not go back to him. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!! Good luck to you.
YOU NEED TO CALL A PLACE FOR ABUSED WOMEN AND CHILDREN IN YOUR AREA AND GET HELP! They have classes/counsling/home arrangements etc to help you get out and stay out- as well as to learn the patterns/cycles and warning signs of abuse so that you never end up in another abusive relationship again.
Please- go get help!
**edit: you need to get councling from someone who deals with abuse- not just any Joe Shmoe Counseler - they won't help and may end up harming you!
i.e. my father was abusive (emotionally, financially, sexually etc towards my mother) and they went to a counceler who told my mom that all of their problems where because my mom didn't spend enough time with my dad. Do you know how instantly worse the abuse got? That councler who knew nothing about abusive relationships totally put my father on an even bigger control/power trip than he already was on- and my poor mom was left to suffer the consequences.
Any advice, myspace once again caused a problem with my relationship?
here's how it all happened,
I'm logining into myspace, and a different e-mail shows up, so i do a e-mail check on it, it's my b/f;s myspace. one i never knew about, i take a closer look, it shows he was on today,
(me and him do have a profile together) and he promised he deleted his profile. and i did the same to mine)
me and him have had many past isuses because of myspace.
he was a player at on point, now me and him are liveing together and expecting a baby this may, once i found the myspace i showed him, i was upset. he lied and said someone else must have made the profile. he told me to go to the room and clam down ( i was in tears ) when i came back, i found out on the computers history he had deleted it, plus was messageing another girl. he is now in the bedroom waiting for me to go to bed. i left a note on the bed saying i'm upset, and i don't feel like sleeping next to him, now he's texting me that i should move out or sleep somewhere else
any advice ?Any advice, myspace once again caused a problem with my relationship?
Myspace is honestly the worst thing out there. I can't seem to delete mine, but every time I am logged in I noticed I get depressed and/or upset.
If myspace has caused you a lot of trouble in the past, I say you delete it. It has a way of causing extra drama because it is impossible to truly read someone's intentions on a computer screen.
However, I am worried about how your boyfriend is acting. If he is using myspace to talk to other girls, and is even threatening to kick you out, I think there are underlying issues. You need to have a serious talk. If he won't listen, he clearly isn't on the same level as you.Any advice, myspace once again caused a problem with my relationship?
well. just let him have another myspace. maybe he doesn't love you since he wants you to move out.
wow he actually said that u should move out?
myspace caused my girlfriend to cheat on me... hate it...
well it's obvious he's lying to you, whoelse would've made up the myspace? just talk to him and try and get some sense out of that idiot
He still wants to be a player I guess. He is hiding things from you and does not care how you feel about it. I do not want to cause you any problems but I do not think his ';playerness'; is just confined to MySpace. Get rid of the loser 95% sure he is cheeating on you. Sorry I am just being honest
Give me his myspace address and I'll find out for you!!!!!
him telling you to move is a big clue.
My first babys dad was a myspace freak.
Because he wasn't good enough to Play in person.
I',m sorry honey-just kick the **** out of him
Whoa lots of technology used here!
Just go talk to him.
Tell him you're sorry for getting upset about it and ask him what the other myspace was really for and if it was not his why he would bother deleting the history and such.
You need to sort this out like adults.
Sometimes it's scary but you're gonna have to learn someday.
I'm sorry to say it but that I think he is still a player.
If he can lie to you about something like myspace, then there is probably more that he is hiding. He obviously has no problems lying to your face - saying that someone else must have made the profile is a total lie, and a lame one at that. Him wiping the internet history is a sign that he has a bit to hide. As for him TEXTING you, when you're under the same roof, that's pretty immature.
I think he is a player and a liar, and not worth it.
I'm logining into myspace, and a different e-mail shows up, so i do a e-mail check on it, it's my b/f;s myspace. one i never knew about, i take a closer look, it shows he was on today,
(me and him do have a profile together) and he promised he deleted his profile. and i did the same to mine)
me and him have had many past isuses because of myspace.
he was a player at on point, now me and him are liveing together and expecting a baby this may, once i found the myspace i showed him, i was upset. he lied and said someone else must have made the profile. he told me to go to the room and clam down ( i was in tears ) when i came back, i found out on the computers history he had deleted it, plus was messageing another girl. he is now in the bedroom waiting for me to go to bed. i left a note on the bed saying i'm upset, and i don't feel like sleeping next to him, now he's texting me that i should move out or sleep somewhere else
any advice ?Any advice, myspace once again caused a problem with my relationship?
Myspace is honestly the worst thing out there. I can't seem to delete mine, but every time I am logged in I noticed I get depressed and/or upset.
If myspace has caused you a lot of trouble in the past, I say you delete it. It has a way of causing extra drama because it is impossible to truly read someone's intentions on a computer screen.
However, I am worried about how your boyfriend is acting. If he is using myspace to talk to other girls, and is even threatening to kick you out, I think there are underlying issues. You need to have a serious talk. If he won't listen, he clearly isn't on the same level as you.Any advice, myspace once again caused a problem with my relationship?
well. just let him have another myspace. maybe he doesn't love you since he wants you to move out.
wow he actually said that u should move out?
myspace caused my girlfriend to cheat on me... hate it...
well it's obvious he's lying to you, whoelse would've made up the myspace? just talk to him and try and get some sense out of that idiot
He still wants to be a player I guess. He is hiding things from you and does not care how you feel about it. I do not want to cause you any problems but I do not think his ';playerness'; is just confined to MySpace. Get rid of the loser 95% sure he is cheeating on you. Sorry I am just being honest
Give me his myspace address and I'll find out for you!!!!!
him telling you to move is a big clue.
My first babys dad was a myspace freak.
Because he wasn't good enough to Play in person.
I',m sorry honey-just kick the **** out of him
Whoa lots of technology used here!
Just go talk to him.
Tell him you're sorry for getting upset about it and ask him what the other myspace was really for and if it was not his why he would bother deleting the history and such.
You need to sort this out like adults.
Sometimes it's scary but you're gonna have to learn someday.
I'm sorry to say it but that I think he is still a player.
If he can lie to you about something like myspace, then there is probably more that he is hiding. He obviously has no problems lying to your face - saying that someone else must have made the profile is a total lie, and a lame one at that. Him wiping the internet history is a sign that he has a bit to hide. As for him TEXTING you, when you're under the same roof, that's pretty immature.
I think he is a player and a liar, and not worth it.
The man I like wants us to have a open relationship, would this be healthy? and he's bisexual. I need advice
It depends on whether or not you're okay with it. How does the thought of him sleeping with another man or woman sit with you? Does it bother you? Also, do you know whether or not he practices safe sex? The only way an open relationship is healthy is if both people in it are healthy, and I don't mean physically. Both people have to be alright with it. Don't do it just because it's what he wants. What he wants in this case is irrelevant. If you can't handle it, don't start an open relationship. If he's not cool with that, move on.The man I like wants us to have a open relationship, would this be healthy? and he's bisexual. I need advice
UM....aids..std...how can you guarantee that he's sober during all his encounters and actually took precaution? Definitely NOT HEALTHY, but you already knew that. :-)
It's up to you though, I know people who are able to do it, these are people who like to live on the edge, they usually also have drug and alcohol issues. Watch out, this man is ';dangerous';.The man I like wants us to have a open relationship, would this be healthy? and he's bisexual. I need advice
no, it is not healthy. as far as bisexual, a man is either straight or he sucks schlong (aka GAY). stay away from him, or do not have sex with any real men after him, that's how straight dudes get aids.
UM....aids..std...how can you guarantee that he's sober during all his encounters and actually took precaution? Definitely NOT HEALTHY, but you already knew that. :-)
It's up to you though, I know people who are able to do it, these are people who like to live on the edge, they usually also have drug and alcohol issues. Watch out, this man is ';dangerous';.The man I like wants us to have a open relationship, would this be healthy? and he's bisexual. I need advice
no, it is not healthy. as far as bisexual, a man is either straight or he sucks schlong (aka GAY). stay away from him, or do not have sex with any real men after him, that's how straight dudes get aids.
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